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writes:My boyfriend and I have a ton of trouble sharing a bed. Luckily neither of us snores, but he tosses and turns constantly and wakes me up, which means I get angry and wake him up. Whenever I suggest sleeping separately he gets really offended, plus we always snuggle before bed and when we wake up. Also, we just don't have room in our tiny one-bedroom apartment for two beds. I was thinking of investing in a memory foam mattress because supposedly they prevent someone from feeling movement. I sometimes have to put up a pillow wall like a 5 year old and I've been trying to make him cold since he's always warm, which I think adds to the tossing and turning. I don't know what else to try short of getting bunk beds, which is just no fun for anyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for the great ideas. I think we will try the memory foam thing with two separate blankets.
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reader, rambini  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 i dont think sleeping seperately is a good idea, i can see y he doenst like that one. also you waking him up angry when he tosses and turns isnt really helping anyone either. a memory foam mattress does seem like a very good idea, as his tosing and turning may be due to the fact that he is uncomfortable. you could also try seperate duvets as you might notice it less if it at least means he isnt tugging the duvet all the time.
best of luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 April 2010):
My girlfriend has two single bed that she pushes together to make one. That way you have more space but also there is a small gap so you can't feel the other person moving as much. And you can still snuggle up :).
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 I used to have a memory foam mattress (when with my ex) and they really are fantastic, ...and No, you don't really notice the other person moving about when sleping on them. I'd definately reccomend giving one a go. I intend to get another one, or an overlay, when the budget allows for it.
A cheaper option than the entire mattress in a memory foam overlay. They come in varying thickness - I think 8 cm is the thickest and go for around $250-$300 (aussie)for a queen size on ebay last I looked.
Just make sure it is memory foam, not just regular foam. I bought a foam one cheap at the boxing day sales, and whilst it is a bit nicer than just a mattress, it is just nothing like a memory foam and I would have been better off putting the money aside towards one.
Money well sent imo, coz if you guys start sleeping in seperate beds, the intimacy and sex life is going to suffer, and then typically the relationship will too after that.
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