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writes:This isn't really a question...well I need advice I guess.A few days ago someone added me and then wrote me a messege on myspaceThey randomly asked me out (it was someone I knew but didn't know why they "asked me out".So i kept asking them "why should I believe that you actually like me" and she kept sending me messeges saying -i swear i do- I guess I believed her..but i still wasn't sure if she was being serious. Anyways the next day she met me at my locker and walked to lunch with me then said she would talk to me later. The next class one of my friends told me that she said I was disgusting. (my friend wouldnt lie to me)Then the one who asked me out said that they never said that, i did not believe that at all but i actually liked her and i didnt want her to hate me. *sigh* anyways my friend lets me get on his account and pretend to be him to get the truth out of her. she said she was paid to go out with me.that kind of made me sad. I got angry and we started callin each other names. then i told her i was sorry becuz i say things i dont mean. and my friend asked her if she hated me and she said "no, she is cool"so... the next day she says "your so stupid why dont you go find some friends-Oh thats right no one likes you!" and she also said the friends that i do have hate me. I asked her "what did i ever do to you i apologized for the things i said" and she replied "your in my life thats what you did-and i wish you would just die" finally somone had the guts to say it to me. ya this is reallly long but i had to tell the whole story my question isHow do I get her to not hate me and want me to die becuz i really never did anything to her.
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reader, Cyg79 +, writes (26 October 2008):
 Leave her alone, she is not worth it. She has some serious issues and is taking them out on you. No one has the right talk to you like that. Those words where only said and meant to hurt you. (I'm not sure about you, but I'm not friends with mean people, and that is what she is.) There is no other basis for such hurtful words then to hurt. You can't change her and you can't make her like you. You are just a close target for her anger, and you only make a better target with the more effort you put in.
Just ignore her, and if she does initiate another conversation tell her "No one talks to me like you have, and there is nothing more I wish to say to you." Put an end to the drama and focus your effort on the positive friendships and aspects of your life.
If there is anything I have learned in life it's to not focuses on the bad things and situations, since they will always be there to bring you down. Rather I focuses on the positive things. Because those are the things that can make me smile on even the worst of days. You have very caring friends, that have helped you see her for what she is, focuses on them, not her.
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