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*Boop
writes:I am torn between my boyfriend of 4 years and another guy. i used to be really happy with my boyfriend but he doesn't really talk to me and he rarely texts me. When we started dating he always wanted to see me and talk to me but not so much anymore, but i know he still loves me. But i have been hanging out with my friends more lately and there is this one guy i've known for 5-6years and he broke up with his girlfriend 6months ago and told me he has always liked me and i have him too. Since we have been talking and hanging out so much i have started to fall for him and he told me he loves me. He talks to me heaps and makes me feel special but he may have to go overseas for 5 years and he wants me to wait for him because he wants to be with me, i really like talking to him and i miss him when i'm not with him and i want to be with him but i don't know if i should leave my boyfriend for him or if i should stay with my boyfriend and try to work it out. i'm just worried that i might leave my boyfriend and regret it i been with him since i was 16. please help.
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reader, BBoop +, writes (7 April 2011):
BBoop is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for giving me an answer so quickly you've given me lots to think about...
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reader, yesno  +, writes (6 April 2011):
You've basically already cheated on your boyfriend and you're very young. Not a great start. Break up with him and try to be faithful to the next man or simply play the field. Either way, the guy your with now is not "the one."
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (6 April 2011):
It sounds like you and your boyfriend are drifting apart, but this is what you should focus on. Find out why it is happening and what you can do to resolve it. It could just be a case of you actually growing apart and can't be resolved.This is the first thing you need to sort out.As for this other guy, I think it's ludicrous for him to ask you to wait five years while he goes overseas.Five years is a long time and you cannot be expected to put your life on hold for him. You need to sort out whether you and your current boyfriend can carry on, and if not, you have to move on with your life without both of them.If the second guy comes back sooner or if he comes back after the five years and you are still single then maybe you can revisit the possibility of you two becoming a couple.But you need to get on with your life.
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