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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): "Almost 15" is just 14. That IS too young to have sex. Even 15 is too young.
Tell your boyfriend, and if he truly loves you he'll wait two years until you're of legal age. If he won't wait, that says a lot about how much he truly cares for you-- he may say that you're just so sexy he can't help himself, but in fact he's only thinking about his own appetite, not about you and your future.
I had lots of boyfriends but I waited till I was 22, when I truly knew the difference between love and infatuation. I was loved and was in love, and sex was amazing! When I think back to the boys I had dated before, I'm so glad I didn't take the first one I saw (imagine if you walked into a store and just bought the first dress grabbed off the rack! Pure luck if it fit.) If you wait for sex it will be better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didnt lie they just presumed nd i just went along with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Tbh Ii Understand Where You Are Cuming From I Am Nearly 15 And Still A Virgin And Ii Feel Its Time Fo Me And My Boyfriend [Moderator note]Remainder of this post has been deleted. Users are reminded to at least make an effort to write clearly for the benefit of all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): ok thats gross who has sex at 15 14 or 13 or any of those age its your body not your friend and anyone who does is a slut your to young that dumb dont listen to pepole that have they make me sick were to young am 15 thats all boys after there so dumb at our age no duh thats all he wants dont give it to him and dont always wrok condoms
and your body isnt fished growing so its not only gross but painful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): well I am 13 and my mom doesn't know i am not a virgin she thinks i am and she doesn't know i only had sex with the guy because people said it was ok 2 experiment but make sure 2 wear CONDOMS
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): you are only 15!!! You are way to young to be even thinking about having sex. Being a virgin means youre not getting pregnant...whats so bad about that?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Read what you wrote...
"All my mates have and I've told them that I have too."
Think about that for a moment.
Perhaps all your mates are donig the same thing you are? I'm willing to bet you that almost all your mates are virgins and are lying like you are in order to look cool and seem grown up.
The same thing happened to me. All may mates said they'd had sex, yet when I did have sex (I was 17) they were all VERY curious what it was really like... it turned out that almost all of them had been making it up to look cool.
I know you don't want to hear this, but you are too young to have sex. Not because you physically can't do it... of course you could, but because with sex comes a huge pile of complex emotions that are really hard to handle. I can tell you are not ready emotionally to have sex because you're not ready to tell the truth about you being a virgin to your boyfriend... sex needs honesty and you're not doing that yet.
My advice to you is tell your boyfriend that you are a virgin, and that you're not ready to have sex yet. Also tell him that he shouldn't tell anyone. But, if he does, really it's not as bad as you think. Most of the people claiming they've had sex will inwardly feel relieved because they too are virgins and will be glad to know you are one too.
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reader, laiman  +, writes (24 September 2007):
Sex is a big responsiblity. Most guys want virgins. You are 13. Once you start it's hard to stop. No you don't have to. Don't let people lie to you. Wait. Please wait. Even with a condom you can still get pregnant. Don't do it. Marriage is the best time and the best. That's when you get the good sex. :)
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reader, vampire-kisses  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 hey i kinda know what your going through! my bf is the same and wants sex but i dont know if i should! i think that if you really love each other you should be about to trust him not to tell people thingd that you dont want him to. so if you cant trust him not to its probably not a good idea to have sex. sorry if that didnt help xx xx xx
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reader, Laurenx, +, writes (6 August 2007):
I can assure you that most of your friends ARE virgins just the same as you, so you've got nothing to worry about. Plus, It's not a legal age at 15 to have sex. If you really want to have sex with your boyfriend and love him, just tell him the truth that you are a virgin. But be certain to think of the consequences before going straight ahead. Make sure he wears a condom. And it's nothing to do with anyone else if you are a virgin.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Why would people knowing your a virgin be such a problem. I can promise you that not ALL of your mates have had sex. Some of them would be doing what you have done and have lied.
You have kind of shot yourself in the foot here. All I can suggest is that you sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him that you really are a virgin. If he's a decent lad it won't matter to him.
The only other alternative is to go along with your lie and hope he doesn't realise. It'll be very hard to keep the lie up though so I would advise coming clean. You don't have to tell your mates or anything. Just let your boyfriend know.
Also if you aren't ready to have sex yet then tell him that you aren't ready to have sex with him.
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