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writes:My boyfriend just told me that he's going to a strip club with his friends on February 14th... I had planned to take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant on that day for Valentines day... Now I know Valentine's Day is just a stupid excuse for forced romance and stuff but I am still hurt that he's choosing to go see strippers instead of spending a romantic day with me. He says he wants to go see them and there's nothing I can do to convince him otherwise. I'm hurt. What do I do?We've been together for nearly 4 years by the way, this is the first time he's gone out with friends instead of spending Valentines Day with me. Usually we go for dinner.
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reader, misfitschik66 +, writes (8 February 2009):
 honey all the advice i can give you is say well then im coming too!!! and your not convincing me otherwise
tell him you want to spend the night with him and if that means having to go with the strip club with him so be it.. then he might get it
OR you can say fine ill go out with my `girlfriends` for the night and plan a great awesome night with the girls if they arn`t doing anything if there single or if they are in the same situation you are in
if it bothers him then i guess he should just suck it up i mean he wanted to go to the strip club right
everything will be fine even if you show up at the strip club and say well i wanted to be with you maybe he will get it that way too
good luck sweetheart i hope my advice helped!!!
misfitzchik66
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reader, Chasity44  +, writes (8 February 2009):
I agree with satindesire all the way she put it very bluntly and I would kick his ass to the curb! Rather valentines day or not he should always want to spend time with you instead of some hoes with god knows how many stds you deserve better!
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (7 February 2009):
 You know the old saying If you cant beat them join them!
Tell him your coming with him and that way you can still spend the night with him because that is what you should be doing!
See his face change and see what he says stand your ground and say firmly your going and that's it!
He wont be long in backing down and to be honest i would be a little suspect at this excuse is he really going there?
Only way you will find out is go with him.
Gina
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reader, TalkingHelps +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Maybe he is just pretending and has actually planned something special?!
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reader, satindesire +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Wow, what an insensitive jerk.
Valentines' Day is NOT just an excuse for soppy romance. It's the one day a year that a woman should feel as though she's guaranteed to actually get spoiled rotten and showered with romance and pretty gifts. How often do we REALLY get this ladies? Honestly?!
If I were you, I'd tell him that I thought it was really insensitive and cruel of him to forgo a romantic evening with you to go and get a pointless hard-on looking at some skanks in cheap costumes. Tell him that you'll be expecting him home that night, and if he chooses his friends and strippers over you, then I'd suggest you choose to ignore his sorry ass for a week or two to make sure he KNOWS how unhappy you are. No sex, no cuddles, no phone calls, no cooking or cleaning his apartment, no anything.
Either that or dump him. Which is what I would do.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (7 February 2009):
how rude! does he not realise that it's valentines day!
it's not a stag night is it? i would kick him out and tell him to go with the strippers as it's the only naked woman he will see for a long time.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (7 February 2009):
If my bloke did that I would change the locks while he was out.
How DARE he just announce that he is off to look at other naked girls. The fact that he doesn't seem to care that you would be hurt by this tells me how little he cares about you.
Tell him if he goes, then you won't be there when he comes back. Put the bolt on the door behind him and cut contact. You deserve more than this in life.
4 years is a good run so don't wait for it to get any worse than this. Walk away with your head held high.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, lovelynightmare +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Many times I hear girls and girlfriends giving excuses like "oh, they're just guys" when things like porn and strip clubs come up, but that's why they're just GUYS and not MEN.As his one and only, you should let him know that you won't approve, and let him know there are other non-romantic activities if he's really feeling the V-day crunch.Or even better, if you can woo him, book him for something other than dinner, or more than dinner. Try to be creative.lovelynightmare
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