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*eart*broken10
writes:i just had a threesome with my boyfriend and another female that i have known and now i feel like all the attention was on that girl and i dont know if i still wanna be with him... the threesome was his idea and i feel like maybe it wasnt a threesome, that maybe i should've just left the room and just let him and her have sex.... but right now i dont know if maybe i made a mistake or maybe i need to talk to him and tell him how i feel about the situation...
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reader, Judyth  +, writes (13 January 2011):
Next time establish rules. It is very important. He will follow them and feeling confident, getting smack down in the middle of the action will benefit you. Forget him and enjoy it. Hope all gets better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): Sounds like he was selfish here. Yes, plenty of threads on here that address threesomes and relationships. You took a big risk. However, learn from this. Id talk to him and see whats going thru his head so you can straighten things out with what his intentions were with the experiment and also what his feelings are afterwards. Best to you.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (18 October 2010):
 Well, I'm afraid its too late now to go back. If you read on DC, the majority of the time, threesomes never work out, someone always winds up getting hurt. I don't think even the most strongest of relationships can honestly handle a threesome unless BOTH parties are totally 100% for it and boundaries have been set. I personally would never be able to handle it, and wouldn't be with a man who wanted one. That's just me.
Too late to go back, so now its time for damage control. Definitely talk to your guy and make sure you express EVERYTHING that you are feeling. If you didn't tell your guy you had misgivings, maybe he really thought/thinks you were cool with it. Sad part is, for some, once they get a taste of the "forbidden" so to speak, they want more. If this isn't what you want, make it clear RIGHT NOW. You didn't like it, and will not do it again.
I wish you all the best, I really can't blame you at all for how you feel. I hope the two of you can work things out. Remember to respect yourself and don't do ANYTHING you don't want to do.
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reader, njguy01 +, writes (18 October 2010):
Talk to him. Why do you feel that you should have left the room? He probably didn't mean to make you feel how ever you feel about it. He was probably very excited at the idea of what was probably a fantasy for him coming true. Sit down with him in a non hostile setting and just see what he has to say and tell him how you feel. If you did not want the threesome you should have talked about it before you allowed it. I hope everything is okay
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