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writes:hi ime 59 and have a 35 yr old girlfriend who is just so gorgous, we have been together for 5months, within the last month my mind has gone wild with jealousy and stupid thoughts of her sexual partners before me, ime no virgin, she has had about 6 guys before me. she asked me about my ex's and i told her, then i stupidly asked her about hers, but not really wanting to ask, why i dont know,,,the crap at my age that is coming into my brain is usually putting me down, like ime no good in bed, she would prefer a man her own age, she probably enjoyed and wants man with large penises, and just how could she have even wanted to have sex with these men who were all nice guys according to her. she did tell me about one guy she slept with 8 times who had a large penis, i nearly vomited and felt very sick,, how could she do this to me, even though it was five years before i even met her,,, i feel like ime going a bit batty at times, insecure, and not measuring up to her younger men. i should just be enjoying her company without these stupid thoughts, she is young and beautiful and such a pleasure to be with in 99% ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): Whatever she did in the past, the fact of the matter is she's with you now; every time these jealous thoughts start creeping into your mind, stop and remind yourself of that. I know how difficult it can be to overcome feelings of retroactive jealousy (at any age) but if you want the relationship to survive, do try to let bygones be bygones. After all, if she wanted to be with someone younger she would be! Forget the past, it's who we are in the present that counts. Good luck to both of you, take care :)
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