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writes:I'm getting married to my soul-mate February 1st 2011 (started dating February 1st 2006; about nine months after we both graduated from college both with Master's degrees). And there's really just one thing in relation to our wedding that is annoying me right now.It has to do with a co-worker of mine. My fiance proposed January 1st 2010 and I didn't start wearing my engagement ring around the hospital until December 1st 2010 (almost 11 days ago). I was really trying to avoid exactly what is happening right now.My co-worker is the bitch of the department I work for. Think Angela Martin from the US version of The Office. She's asked me three times now since she saw my ring if she's invited to the wedding and the last three times I've told her that due to budget constraints, my fiance and I can not invite as many people as we'd like.She will NOT take no for an answer. She's starting to spread rumors around the department now that I'm only getting married because I'm A: Pregnant. B: Lonely. C: Desperate. D: All of the above. I really don't know who she thinks she is but after all of this, she is definitely NOT getting an invite now.By now, my fiance and I have gotten just about everything finished up and booked. We've sent out our "A list" invitations yesterday and I'm going to my second gown fitting tomorrow. But I'm wondering: How do I keep this nasty woman from asking that question again and should I just start ignoring her?
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Just tell her she's not invited and tell her to get over it. Does anyone actually believe her rumours??? Tell her she's a childish moron, and then just leave her to thrown her toys out of her pram.
You're not getting married because you're pregnant, lonely or desperate. You're getting married because you are in love and you want to share your life with the man of your dreams. Show that you're the better person, and i guarentee that everyone else will just end up laughing at her behind her back. Don't let her spoil your special day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Sounds like she's either jealous and that's with a big J and doesn't want anyone other than her to have the spotlight. She also seems like she's entitled to whatever she wants and if she doesn't she goes into a temper tantrum. I wouldn't worry about her. In fact, feel sorry for her and have compassion. Let her have her thing. Sooner than later, people will start talking about her and her bully behavior and her childish ways. You would think that kind of behavior went away once they graduated from highschool. Obviously, for her, it hasn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Is there no way to avoid contact with her? Ignoring Rude behaviour like that, Especially when it comes to something formal and Important such as a wedding event, is what I would support, if it is possible, with the type of extreme character one is forced to be dealing with.
She does Not deserve to be present on your special, Personal day! I wouldn't be surprised if she made a disastrous scene.
Could you supply a little more detail about the rumours she is spreading; are they very damaging or just easily brushed off pettiness?
-Tante V
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