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writes: i am to marry my boyfriend of many years next year but recently things that never bothered me that much are now irritating me. What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 I take it that you are referring to your b/f? Could it be just nerves, or are you getting really anxious about making that final plunge?
Or could it be that you have 'outgrown' him and really need to give the 'marriage' thing a re-think...it really is a huge commitment to make, so really it needs to be addressed.
I always think it is good to get away from a situation completely, say go away for a quiet holiday with some friends, maybe just walking and talking and discussing life and the future. It will give you a bit of breathing space, and you will be surprised how much clearer you can see things when you stand back and see the bigger picture - even if only to the countryside for a weekend, so you can focus. I have done this and believe me, nothing works better; it makes you realise how much you really love someone when you have the chance to miss them for a while. I hope I have been of some help..Failing that, could it be another situation unconnected with your fiance which perhaps you are taking it out on him, as he is the closest person to you, therefore, an 'easy target'?? Sorry if this is not the case at all, I may be barking up the wrong tree, but not knowing you personally I have not got enough information to form any kind of opinion, that is not what I am here to do - just tossing a few things up in the air..!! Have a think, and if I can be of any further assistance, please feel free to let me know - you can send me a private e-mail and I will answer as soon as I can..Good luck!
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