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writes:Heyy. i'm probably being stupid but well i just feel really self- concious and unconfident.well i have a bit of a slutty past and i admit that but a few of my friends constantly call me a whore etc and won't let it drop about my past and who've i've been out with and what happened etc. and I just want to drop it and forget it but they won't stop!secondly everyone thinks i'm a lesbian and i'm really not, it really annoys me, everyone is just like well you're nan is a lesbian, you're brothers gay and you seem the type so you must be. nobody seems to care about my feelings.and the other day my friend was talking and joking with people and she asked some guys if they would do me and they all said no not unless they got paid for it. i feel so unattractive and unloved etc.it just feels horrible cos i haven't exactly had the best life, i mean even my brother doesn't want to meet me! and urgh just what to do?
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reader, BethBabes +, writes (11 April 2009):
BethBabes is verified as being by the original poster of the question they are my freinds though, they stuck with me through everything i've gone through. but they're just annoying. like im a christian yeah and ive said i wont have sex till im married but they are all like yeah whatever you'll be first you probably already have even my sister thinks i say it so guys see me as a challenge and thats my sister! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Get new friends, and keep most of your previous sex life to your self
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reader, WantAnswers  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 i understand your feelings.they all say you bad things to make you feel bad just dont pay anny attension to them and if your friends are the one mocking you then i think they are not truly and honestley your FRIENDS!!!try not to think about your past its gone try to be the best of yourself and think positive.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (8 April 2009):
 It sounds like you are going through the usual stress and strain of teenage life in Britain today....pressure to conform to this, that and the other - damned if you do, damned if you don't. For a start, if your mates won't let your past go, they are not your mates. They are trying to undermine you to make themselves feel better - chances are they are very insecure and unsure about themselves. You cannot change your past but you can control who you are now, who you hang out with and what happens in the future. Your self esteem does not depend on other people - that is the only lesson you have to learn. If you have developed into a more mature person and left those bad experiences of your past behind, feel glad and proud about that. Learning to love and accept yourself is vital to a happy life because there are always people in a queue to knock you down no matter what background you come from. Attractiveness does not depend on teenage boys willingness to 'do' you...teenage boys rarely articulate their feelings about girls especially in groups (it ain't cool apparently). Putting you down is nothing about you personally - this boy in school called me names and did all sorts in my teens to put me down physically, I bumped into him in my 20's and he was chasing me around for a date...oh how I enjoyed saying no. If you don't want to be reminded about your past life, don't tell people about it...keep your secrets to yourself and those you can trust. As for being called a lesbian, develop a sense of humour about it because if these girls can see you laughing then they know they are not hurting you and the bullying will stop. Next time they ask if you are a lesbian you could say 'it takes one to know one' implying they must be too...ask if they want a date and laugh it off saying your nanna is out on the pull if they are interested.
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