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writes: I'm 15 and i really love this guy. Should i sleep with him? I know he feels the same way. There is a sleepover soon with alcohol and i dont know if things will just happen without me really thinking about it so i want to make my mind up before i go. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): i'm 14 and crap with relationships and stuff but the answer to what ur asking is, that if u think it's the right time it probably is but you shudn't rush into it and u shudn't just do it cuz u think u shud, u shud do it wen u feel ready. How long have u been with ur bf? and ur first time shud be special and with the right person so id just think about it and c how it goes and dnt just do it cuz ur drunk or have been drinking cuz u will probably regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): You are young. Everyone's gonna say that. So let me say something that not everyone would think of-- WHY would you want to do it at a party? not very intimate, meaningful or memorable...
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 December 2006):
 The very fact you have to ask that question on here would indicate that yes, you are to young to be considering this. When alcohol is involved you really should not be looking at having a sexual experience.
Why?
Why do you need to do something you a.might not remember....b.might regret....c.mightcause you to feel ashamed if you behave inappropriately...
Don't do it would be the safest option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): if i was u..i wouldnt. i had sex with my bf last week nd he had sex before.........nd he loved me so he didnt put any pressure on me. y would u need to have sex wit alchol? i think ur scared am i right? if u realli wanted to do it u would be sober
Summer im 17 by the way
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reader, bimale +, writes (25 December 2006):
remember , no glove no love , in the end only you can decide where and when you start your sexual life, just dont add pregency to your problems, have fun .
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reader, swan +, writes (25 December 2006):
Ummmm OK I'm 15 myself and I enjoy alcohol and have experienced it a few times. Lol. I find that all drugs make you go to extremes. Drugs such as cannabis :) make you relax etc. Alcohol makes ME become loud (although not ALWAYS aggressive as i am generally laid back) and when two people are on alcohol I find that they become all over eachother. Long story. This isn't going to help you really.
But it also makes people extremely horny and if you go there expecting to have sex and don't think it through, and turn up with no protection you're asking for trouble. Go drink have a good time but do you really want to have sex with this boy under these conditions? You're a virgin? This is your first time? Would you feel good about yourself if he told his friends he got you drunk and laid you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): If you think you are ready just do it! And never look back! I haven't found anyone to do it with yet, I wish I did. Good luck! And remember it is never to late to back out!!!!
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reader, pica +, writes (24 December 2006):
Lots of good advice here which you seem to want to ignore.. just one thing to add. (Though are you a troll?? underage sex, alcohol, bound to raise the temperature round here!)
In any situation involving alcohol, this idea of deciding in advance is a complete and utter joke. Alcohol as you know is a drug which greatly changes peoples behaviour. 'decided in advance' goes right out the window. So don't kid yourself on that one. Men get women drunk so they'll have sex - that's why your sleepover will include alcohol. So you can all lose your inhibitions and blame it on the drink. Duh. (Note to offended men - ok, not all men but I have been on that kind of date more than once ... !)
And one last thing - if you have to ask a bunch of strangers if you should have sex with someone then I'd say the answer is always no. That goes for all ages and both genders. Why would it be anyone's decision but yours??
Anyway, you'll go, you'll get drunk, you'll have sex. Go on, prove me wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): Does it change anything that you have made up your mind that you are going to have sex with this guy, that it is not to keep him but something you both just want, but he hasn't asked you yet, you just know he wants to do it with you?
First off, how do you know what he wants if he has not said anything to you about it? I guess you have been making out or something? How do you know how he will feel about you after you have sex? Have you asked him if he will loose respect for you and talk about it to his friends at school? If he does that, how will it make you feel, like you are in control of him and a big shot?
So, I guess you think you are invulnerable, don't care about the consequences here or what might happen to you if you start having sex at 15? Why are you asking for advice? You aren't going to listen, you already know it all don't you? Why trust a woman who was once 15 herself and has lived many years longer than you, is not your mother so can't judge you as her own responsibility, has no hidden agenda with you to give you the wrong scoop, but you are just going to disregard everything you have been told by those that have gone before you....
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reader, Nikita +, writes (23 December 2006):
 hi there again, well all I can add to what ive already said is, if you want to drink then thats up to you but i wouldnt advise you to have sex while you're drunk. I realise that you want to sleep with him and again thats up to you. I would just do it another time when there's no alcohol involved. If, however things develop at the party and you end up sleeping together then use protection. im not lecturing here, just be sensible ok. have a good time at the party though, just take care of yourself. good luck honeyx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanx for the help
i do want to have sex with this guy and he hasnt asked me i just know he wants to.i know i want sex i just want to make up my mind before i go whether to drink or not.
The sex isnt to keep him! Its just something we both want.
DOes that change anything?
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reader, Nikita +, writes (23 December 2006):
Hi there. Im going to tell you a true story about a teenage girl, a friend of my daughter who did exactly as you're thinking of doing. She was your age and she went to a party and got drunk and had sex with a boy she fancied. You can probably guess the rest and now she's the mother of a little girl, the boy is nowhere to be seen and she's depressed and unable to cope with a crying baby. You may be saying, but im not that stupid, ill use protection but if you're planning to drink then protection may be the last thing you think of. Alcohol takes away your ability to think straight in an emotion fuelled situation and it cancells out that little voice that tells you, dont do this!. I know you love this boy and you say he loves you but having sex for the first time when there is alcohol involved is not the right time to do it. My advice to you is to wait, save yourself until you're ready and the time is right, not when you're fumbling around in the dark, drunk and giggly. If he loves you he will wait. If he doesnt then he's really not worth it. Trust me, you will like yourself a lot more the next day if you say no! Ive been there and i know how you feel. Dont do it. Hope it works out for you okay.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): "I don't know if things will happen without me really thinking about them, so I want to make my mind up before I go." Read this statement and ask yourself this question, if I don't know what I think I want, why would I put myself in a position to be influenced by something that I know will take me out of my ability to think, like a sleep over with alcohol? You are just asking for a world of regret after this booze filled night with a boy that has convinced you that he loves you with the anticipation and expectation that his proclomation of love will end in the two of you having sex.
What is wrong with this picture? Boys do not respect girls who will have sex with them at just because they ask them for it and during a sleep over wtih alchohol...what will happen is you will be stuck with a reputation as one of the school sluts, and he will have nothing more to do with you, but will have the bragging rights to nailing you during a drunken one night stand. I know this is harsh, it is not fair, I agree, but it is that way, and has always been that way because young ladies are special and they have all of the power over guys if they will just learn to regard themselves as precious, and their bodies are a precious gift to be given to a man with a true heart.
Don't believe me? OK, here is something else to consider. Did you know that girls that have sex at an early age are 80% more likely to contract cervical cancer than the normal population? I work with a girl who is only 19 years old, and she has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer, she has only had sex with two guys in her young life, and this is what she gets to show for it.
Just make up your mind to have something more on your mind than servicing a guy that tells you he loves you, do you really think he is in a position to stick around when he has high school and college to finish and sports and girls and friends that he wants to hang out with, not to mention he will need a job to support you and the unwanted pregnacy that you might result from having unprotected sex or even protected (condoms do leak and or break) while drunk?
Think girl, what are you in such a rush for to have sex? It won't keep your boyfriend.
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