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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. Im new to this so please bare with me.My bf and I broke up after alot of bullshit between the both of us.we were both emotionally cheating.we decided to take a break. But I felt like during this break he was blaming everything on me.i felt I was being used.he would come over but he always hid his phone he blocked me on fb. At one point he said if I went on his fb I would be very mad cause he talks to so many girls.the last time I was on his phone he had been sending pics to other females,then he lied and said he knew them from middle school but theses girls were from another city,he said they had kids and only one of them does.he used to come around where I live and the girl he sent pics to lived in the same city. He basically behaved very shady. He would put our relationship issues on blast on fb and his father would post rude comments basically igniting this behavior and telling him not to change..i got really hurt..i felt like I was always trying to do things and being romantic.i broke up w him.i got tired of being pushed to the side for a month.so I left him.ive been talking to other men and now he says he wants me back.but he still blames me for everything that went wrong. Maybe because I did mess up a couple times but I have no problem in admitting and correcting it..anyways he gets crazy and tells me he'll kill himself. He tells me he feels like a waste of breath. He invited me out but I feel like im holding on to alot of the past..he apologized ONLY after I asked him too.and then he felt everything was fine. He says hes trying but honestly idk what "trying" is.. He says im mean to him and accuse him of stuff he hasn't done. Am I being a psychopath..or am I just confused..theres a part of me that wants to go back. But there's the other part of me telling me its a cycle and it will never change.he also tries to make me feel guilty for what im doing now that im single. He says im so quick to move on.but truth is in the past he's treated me very horribly and its just kind of taken a toll on me..im not the same.and it saddens me.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (28 May 2013):
 This relationship sounds toxic and you both are best apart. I really think you both need time apart to heal and bury the pain caused to one another. Once you both are willing to accept that the love is worth fighting, you both will move towards the common goal, until then you are not ready to consider a reconciliation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): He is a manipulative ass (probably gets it from his father) and you need to rid yourself of the toxins. Sever ties with him like ripping off a band-aid. One and done! Leave this prick alone and get on with your life. You deserve so much better.
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