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writes: How can I get over an impossible relationship? I met a guy during a trip a couple years ago. We added each other on Facebook. We sometimes chatted, and got along well, but it didn't go past that because of the distance. However, a few months ago we started chatting everyday and eventually we agreed to see each other.When we did, it was awesome. We had even better chemistry and we felt a very strong connection. We did have sex and that sort of made the attachment stronger... although we also spent a great deal of time just talking, laughing, being ourselves, and we even caressed lovingly, cuddled, etc., it was all very natural and spontaneous.The thing is, after that we were going to see each other last week. I had promised him we'd spend a lot of time together, especially because it was our last chance to see each other now... after that, who knows when we'd see each other again. Unfortunately I couldn't keep my promise because my sister got in the way. He got upset.Now I have to get over him. But it's been very difficult. We haven't talked for a week. And it hurts. I guess what hurts the most is that we could have been very happy had it not been for the distance. In a way, we were doomed from the beginning because eventually we knew wouldn't see each other anymore, but last week the frustration was too big because we had been hopinng that at least we'd see each other one last time, and we didn't. Also, I guess in the beginning we were just attracted to each other and didn't expect to have such great chemistry in person. But he especially was very open about his feelings, which was surprising for me, too.I even dream about him sometimes. Last night I went out and met some nice guys, and they seemed interested in me, but I just wasn't into them at all, not even for something casual. I just need to know how to get over this, because what most hurts is the thought that it's not because he wasn't interested, but that if it weren't because of the distance, maybe something great would have started.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 Is there a reason you can't make it work?
how far apart are you?
how long would you two have to be apart?
if you like him
if he likes you
if the chemistry is good
distance can be over come
is there another reason you are not giving?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2013): I had a long distance, international relationship. After 7 years, we finally got married. It has been the hardest 7 years of my life.
My advice is break up as quickly as possible and don't look back, unless you can handle the pain of separations. It's like losing someone to death over and over again. It's not worth it. And when you are together, you only think of the next separation. My dad told me to break up, and I didn't listen. Many times, I wished I had listened because it hasn't been easy.
I've lost a boyfriend to cancer and it took me about 8 months to get over him. Time heals all wounds.
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