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The office scandal - what do I do?

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Question - (11 February 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 17 February 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am bisexual, my coworker and friend knows I gave big hints. I really like her she's in a unhappy / abusive marraige. We have had a connection always touching each other hands 2 her complmenting my voice. She and I have a eye connection thing going on -she waits till I look at her and vice versa till we have and hold it for a bit then she goes about her biz. I gave her space thinking thats what she wanted it seemed like a wall was up. Although, we could both not help but to peek at each other, and her face would turn red. WE had a talk 2 weeks later, I had a gift for her. I gave it to her and she told me I give so- much and said she never gives me anything, I said I never asked for anthing, she responded by saying ___ either did I - then she said no I do give something my LOVE and then softly a pause then she said friendship. I felt she was not talking about the gift I gave her- but of our connection. When I was about to leave she said "keep in touch with me please"...

I feel horrible she is married, but man oh man - I have feelings for her. When she is back in my area I feel her energy and can tell she is wanting me to look back - and when I dont or due I feel so much connection its like she throwing a ball of energy to me I feel it that strong.

These are my questions

Do you think she feels the same?

How do I approach her as a friend instead of how she is approaching me- ? ( she is married and I love her enough not 2 be more )

Or due I just walk away and avoid?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009):

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Thank you, I feel you might be right.. Before, I posted that question I asked her out for java - it would have been the 4th turndown.. When this time she said I don't know- ( I thought she might be scared to be alone with me because of our connection) the next day she told me yes then on fri- it was like anouther change took place- it was probably not. When Sunday came she asked me out for coffee-with her son. I had a great time -and believe she did too. When monday came around - it was the same with the connection thing... So I think you are right - she needs a friend, and I think she is scared.. THANK YOU

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A male reader, Demon_2004 United States +, writes (11 February 2009):

Demon_2004 agony auntI think she might feel the same but then again maybe she doesn't now what she is feeling.

I think that maybe she just needs a friend right now. I would say maybe talking to her more.

Everybody needs a friend and maybe she is yours and vice versa. So no I wouldn't just walk away

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