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writes: I am seeing a very nice kind guy, its been about 3 mths now.Our problem is this: i am extremely frustrated by the lack of satisfaction is the sex part of the relationship. 'He is kind to me when we see each other (once a week at weekends, he lives 1hr away) but it is no longer enough for me, however he seems happy enough with our sex life. At first we didn't have sex for a while, but i was quite happy with taking it slow at first, now I realize that he may have been nervous, as he has admitted to me that he has a premature ejaculation problem but also that he has little experience (3 women). Surely he should know what to do by now? He is 31, I am 32. He won't do oral sex as he thinks its degrading for both partners and doesn't like kissing breasts either. I hoped this would make up for the actual sex but he is not willing to try either stimulation. I cry every time he leaves at the weekend and feel miserable. How can I talk to him as he won't look at websites I suggested to him or should i give up on him and tell him why?
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reader, Tray-c +, writes (17 July 2006):
 Hmmm tricky one, he seems fairly stubborn and set in his ways. But before throwing in the towel altogethern why don't you try and spice things up you could bring various toys into the spectrum or if thats not for you just catch him unaware and have crazy sex. If still he is unresponcive then you really have to have a "talk" with him and let him know your feelings
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reader, Martyrmachine +, writes (17 July 2006):
 congrats - i think you sdtumbled upon a guy who actuall cares. i think you should treasure that, as there aren't many guys like that in thw world. you should treasure the knowledge that he isnt with you just for sex, and that he's not a perverted asshole like most guys today are.i mean, if you dont appreciate it, he just might not be your type. if you're in it for sex, you should pick up anther guy, who would please you in those ways.sex doenst really mean romance. why dont you be romantic for a while, and see where that gets you. maybe that's what he wants? if you give him what he wants, surely he would give you what you want.you should try telling this to him, not third person(s). if you can'y communicate with your partner without hesitating, then you're pretty useless. for example i dont keep anything from my gf and if there's something wrong, i tell her that. I dont hesitate talking about anything, for example recently she asked me isnt it kinkier if she put the condom on with her mouth....but thats not the pointTALK TO HIM ABOUT IT YOURSELFO:
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