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writes:The thing about Romeo and Juliet is that I've have always been bothered about: Juliet doesn't love Romeo despair of his name. She loves him because of it. It's the classic Juliet-syndrome (if you haven't figured it already, I have cleaverly named it after her)And, unfortunately, the Juliet-syndrome is a disease that almost all girls suffer of. This where you'd might ask: what is this "Juliet-syndrome"?I'm glad you (almost) asked:The Juliet-syndrome is very similar to the socalled "Bad boy-syndrome". The only diffrence is that when dealing with the Juliet-syndrome it's not necessarily the guy that's the obstruction. You'd might actually say that the Bad boy-syndrome is a part of the Juliet-syndrome. The Juliet-syndrome is when you (Juliet) can't quite "get" your love (Romeo). The reason of why you can't get the guy can be very diffrent: maybe your family and his are sworn enemies (like in Romeo and Juliet) or maybe he's you best friend and it would ruin your friendship if you started dating. It doesn't matter. As long as there is one big obstruction that keeps you apart. Almost every single girl I know either is or has been in one of those "relationships". But when did relationship start to have be so complicated? Why do we prefer Romeo and Juliet over Barbie and Ken?To me this is a hard question. I do it myself. If my boyfriend and I have a perfect period that last over a month I begin to create issues where there are none. It's of course not something I do on purpose, but it sort of always happen. I think that it's because we've seen to many movies. Nobody wanna watch a perfect, problem-free couple. No, we wanna see the lovers meet, love, meet trouble, overwin trouble, love ... and then what? Well, we don't ever see them have kids and settle for an everyday, do we? No. So we think that our lovelife should be one, long lovemovie. But life is no movie. So how the hell do we get over this urge to be Juliet?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 I don't know about movies, but at theatre school I have been taught that there's no theatre without conflict. Not just tragedies and dramas- comedies too. In theatre everything is about a conflict, someone who wants something but can't have it, some sort of problem that needs being solved, some obstacle that needs to be overcome, some change to be made. Nobody would watch a play about two guys sitting and shooting the breeze, and, if you object that " Waiting for Godot " is precisely about that, well, that's the conflict : the guys want Godot to arrive, ..but he never does.
Why ? because our thought process is, at least in Western cultures, temporally defined and sequential, we are used to see anything in terms of before, during and after- in otehr words we NEED to ask ourselves : and then what ? and now what happens ? , otherwise we can't be interested. Serene perhaps, but interested, not.
We need life to be a constant flow of dynamic forces, not static ones- with the constant risk, thrill and challenge of having something to get, something to modify, something to achieve. Btw, this is also a defense mechanism against our inborn , subconscious horror of death. Because until we want something, we desire something, we look forward to something that's not here- it means there's a future and we are alive. When ALL we could ever want should have been got, found, obtained ( luckily it never happens ! ) it would be like an eternal present very alike to death.
In conclusion, apparently we need a pinch of drama to keep us going. The trick is to make sure it's just a pinch and not a damn whole lot !
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): I think it is human nature. If you put a human in a room with a big red button and tell them, "Do not push this button under any circumstances," then the one thing that human is going to think of constantly is pushing the button! Why are human's afraid of things going well? Why do human's love drama? I don't know. But look at t.v. The shows that do the best always have the most drama! So, yes, I agree with you completely about Juliet. But I think it is true of Romeo, also. Would Juliet have been so appealing if she had been of another family? Maybe not. Plus, even at the beginning of the play Romeo is pining for Rosalind, a girl who rejected him. Again, another relationship with the "I want this because I can't have it" scenario. So instead of the Juliet syndrome it should be Romeo and Juliet syndrome, and that also includes men in the formula because men are just as guilty of this as women.
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