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writes:I'm a 20 year old male from Holland. I've never been in a relationship before. There were some girls that said i was attractive. I didn't feel anything for them and i'm not a guy who takes advantage of them. I would not want to break their hearts, so I gently told them i was not interested. I was always waiting for a girl that would answer my interests. It's hard to find, but i remained patient. I've got a lot of good friends. Some of them know about my problem. They are very understanding about it.This was never a problem before until i went on vacation with my 3 most crazy friends to Egypt. They fucked, sucked and screwed everything that moved. This was hard for me to see. I've always been an intelligent, shy and caring guy. This wasn't how i pictured love to be. In this vacation I met the girl of my dreams. She is a hot Russian girl. Great personality, the body of a godess and she's very surprised that a guy like myself remained a virgin. She values it very much and i've had some great moments with her on vacation (not sexually, just plain fun). She was very afraid of losing me and she wanted to keep in touch with me. It was perfect for me! Back home she told me that I was the ideal guy for her and she would do anything to be with me. Now comes the bad part. That vacation in Egypt was her honeymoon. She fell in love with me, and promised me that she would get divorced. We told each other every day what we did on the phone and email. She listens to my problems and I carefully listen to hers. Now 6 months have passed and I really adore her! The problem is her relationship with her Husband is becoming better. She is starting to love him again. She still says that she will get divorced in the future (I understand that this is a big step and you can not rush this). I'm starting to get doubts about it. Because the girl i love is in the hands of someone else. There is not much i can do about it. I still have the feeling she is my biggest dream and i don't want to say goodbye forever. I'm scared that she will dissappoint me and that i will remain alone. Can someone tell me what you would do in a situation like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand this. I just needed a slap back into reality. It felt good when somebody tells me this. I'll just go out and look for girls here in home. Maybe i'll be lucky someday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think i just have to face the facts. That i've been a moron and she's just entertaining herself with my pathetic excuse for a life. Ah well, life is a bitch. Thanks everybody, i think I know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's probably better to forget her. Just move on with my normal life and there might be a chance that i will find a nice girl here in Holland. I'll just have to be patient. Thanks for the comments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYour probably right. I'm just too blind to see it. The thing is: She calls me every day after work, so her husband doesn't notice it. She tells me she is very affraid that i might get a girl here in Holland and that all her hopes and dreams will be lost. It confuses me, because i asked her why the hell she would get married in the first place. She then tells me: I thought he was good enough, but since we got married he stopped giving me attention and i have do everything for him. She says: I know you wouldn't do that to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said she wanted to divorce and come and visit me within the year. But you are right. This is totally unrealistic and stupid. I'll just go and look for some girl near home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're probably right. It might be better to look for something near home. I live in a really small town in Holland. It's a town filled with farmers and there aren't many girls. Guys like me are very common in our small town and in the city they don't really like our kind and girls from the city aren't really attracted to me. Ah well. Thanks for your opinion.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 If I were you I'd cut bait and run. I don't see a future here for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow you probably wonder. How can a guy get in touch with a girl on her honeymoon? Russians are different type of people. Her husband didn't really care about her. The ring was already on her finger so she was already his.
When i showed up this changed. Her husband was constantly telling me to back up, but i didn't. He wanted to drink against me. He lost, I won without being drunk. At that time i saw the chance to get to know her better and she kept on coming towards me instead of her own husband.
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