A
male
 ,
anonymous
writes:Why is it that men are nearly always responsible for crimes. Not just murders and roberies but also child abuse. Yet oddly the ones who can be the most vile are actually women (cat fights and veral abuse).Can anyone explain that? Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Fade878  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 I think your priorities on vile are not the same as other on this post.
Vile to me is physical, sexual violence that leads to loss of innocence or murder. To me; they equate to be close in natures in that it is something that was robbed from another that cannot be given back. Restitution.
Then after that...based on my readings of psychology-it would have to be abuse that has occured in the home be it neglect, emotional abuse, manipulation, verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotional/physical abandonment.
With these events happening in a child's home-where there is little to no stability or safety-a child grows up with lack of social skills, communication-their adult relationship choices most often model their childhood home. They seek out partners that will continue the cycle of abuse as that is all that is familiar to them. Anything different from this makes them feel unbalanced, unsafe. They lose a sense of what a healthy, adult relationship is to be. They themselves often grow up to be abusive as well.
Seen this way-these abuses, violence, and crimes you speak of have a root cause.
For me I feel compassion to those victims that were once helpless children who are now adults and don't have the necessary skills and tools to deal and cope with traumas of the past.
It is also a relief to know that our legal system is designed to protect us from their acts now. But unfortunate that the system in their youth failed them.
Life is a cycle.
Just be grateful that you have the power and control to shape your life the way you want and need. You can decide to not be an adult that commits such crimes against another. You can make good and healthy choices. You have everday to do good.
A
male
reader, dapone 1 +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Dear anon
if your theory is correct then can you, tell me why there are as many woman in prison as there are men, do not know which part of U.K that you live but there are plenty of woman sex offenders, baby killers and the like in UK prison, do not now were you got your facts from, but if you visit a Crown Court near you,then you will see what goes on in the real world.
...............................
A
female
reader, Jendorset +, writes (24 October 2007):
Surely cat fights and verbal abuse are not as vile as murder and child abuse ??????
...............................
A
female
reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (24 October 2007):
 The simple answer is this:
males are hard-wired for physical aggression, primal for survival. Thank Gawd most of them can control their impulses or the unchecked brutality of undeveloped nations would be even higher in more financially secure societies.
females are hard-wired for communication. That is the vehicle for their strengths (empathy and nurturing) and flaws (verbal abuse).
On another note, I have NEVER known there were so many men out there with feelings and thoughts for things other than sports and sex, until I came here, to dearcupid.org.
Furthermore, I did not have many girlfriends growing up because they can be so vicious and mean-spirited. As an adult, I have close girlfriends because I learned how to be selective. We are baffled at the men that stay with such manipulative women. We are polite to those women but give them wide berth because they poison everyone.
...............................
A
female
reader, Fade878 +, writes (24 October 2007):
I read an intersting book that speaks on exactly what you are asking. The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker. That fear can cause us to commit horendous crimes but that the good side of fear can keep us from having such crimes committed against us.
Pedophiles numbers are more men based and what they do are vile.
Any harm that one commits against another regardless of sex is vile.
I've known men to be verbally abusive-it's not just women. Men get into fist fights and do just as much vile violence as the women you are claiming.
Abusive tendancies are more than verbal, physical-it's emotional too. Either sex commits them based on what was taught to them, modelled to them in their childhood.
I think the crimes committed against children is the most vile act any man or woman or fellow child can commit. Children are helpess victims due to they have to rely on the trust of adults and the society they live in to protect them. They have little personal power to fight against an adult.
I am sorry that you have had bad experiences with women; we are supposed to be the fairer sex.
When dealing with this, one does have to do a case by case assessment. Generalization cause alot of misunderstandings and hard feelings.
Read the book-it was a good one.
...............................
|
