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writes:Ok so a guy I was seeing broke things off when he realised I smoked (really anti smoking as a close family member died) and he couldn't be with a smoker. A bit on I am thinking if sending him the below txt, thoughts?Hey, I just wanted to send you a quick txt to say thanks. I have actually been off cigarettes since I last saw you, about 7 weeks I think now. I even stopped using any of the quitting smoking things. Really happy with myself about it, never thought I'd be able to get to a point where not only was I not smoking but had no desire to. I feel so much better now I've quit, ok the first week and a bit was fairly hard and I was a nightmare (proper nuts really),I'm sure you would agree on that point (sorry again!). But now I'm over the brunt of it it has actually been really good. It's just a shame I didn't manage it before I had met you.So even though this didn't work out I just wanted to say thanks for unknowingly being the shove I needed to quit and it's (overall) been a positive thing for me. I'd like to meet for a coffee or something if you were open to it, but if not I understand.So yeah, thanks.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (13 November 2014):
 Kudos to you for quitting but no, I would not send that text nor any message like it. In it, you come across as trying too hard to win his approval. This suggests that your only reason for quitting was him which makes it unreliable.
And while I fully appreciate how much smoking can become part of your life and recognize that 7 weeks without is quite an accomplishment, it is not long enough a period of time to prove anything long term. If I'd been seeing someone I learned was a crack or heroine addict, or had a drinking or gambling habit, I would not take them back after only 7 weeks. People have been known to fall back on old habits during times of stress or boredom.
Clearly you're trying to win your way back in his graces but I think you should leave well enough alone for the time being.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (13 November 2014):
 I agree with SB.... It's OK to send that note... AND this guy may really like the you WHO doesn't (now) smoke.
If it rekindles things... .good... if not; then what diff does it make?????
Good luck... and you are wise to have given up smoking!!!
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (13 November 2014):
 Congratulations on quitting!
No harm in messaging him, but he may be concerned you'll fall back into the habit of smoking as many do.
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