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writes:hi,so i know someone online, i met him through a friend and hes generally a nice guy, and i love him really, but i dont know if i should let this carry on?he loves me too. but the thing is, hes 22 and im 6 years younger than him. and when he talks about how much he wants me 'sexually' i feel uncomfortable, not because i dont want him too. i do. but i dont think that im ready,i dont know what i should do, i know its wrong to fall in love with someone online, but hey! so my question is...am i doing the right thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Please be careful. It sounds like you have no idea what you are about to fall for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Yeah, any guy who is 22 who "wants" a girl who is 6 years younger than he is, is someone to stay away from.Sounds like obviously predatory behavior to me. I'm a guy, and I was 22 once, and I'd never have done this.I have a friend who was raped by someone when she was 16, she didn't realize what was going to happen and afterward even remembering what happened she didn't really understand what happened...took her years to really get it, he was older, he brought alcohol, and they had sex after she was well intoxicated....she was ashamed, didn't tell anyone, and didn't realize it was truly rape until much later.This guy sounds like a rapist, or a "rapist wanna be" for lack of a better term.Protect yourself, I've known far to many women who didn't protect themselves well enough and heard far to many rape stories from women who took years to get over it.I hope you have someone close to you that can give you good advice. If you don't, call a rape or sexual assault hot line and talk to someone, let them know what is happening. They can help you understand."hes generally a nice guy"No, he isn't. If he was a nice guy he'd not be doing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I am very concerned that this person is older than 22. I would talk to your parents or someone else you can trust. You are very young and will have many wonderful romances in your life. He should not be talking to you in a sexual manner. I know it feels great to have the attention and he may be very nice but it is not ok you are too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Then you shouldnt go any further with this guy.You dont want him to be a perv to you, thats wrong.
Your young so dont, please dont get into anything with this guy.You dont really know him.And if he's talks about how he wants you sexually and makes you uncomfortable, you should probably stop this.
Thats just my opinion.So take care.
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reader, kissedbeennever  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Hi girl,
I think this situation should not continue.
Maybe it's is hard for you to understand this right now, but you can't trust anyone, don't be naive, you don't actually get to know sb online, besides he's older than you, to be honest, I think you should hang out with people your age, from your school, etc.
Good luck!
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reader, thatonegirl11  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Have you heard the saying, "If you have to ask, you already know the answer?" Deep down you feel uncomfortable and sense that something is wrong. It's fine that you aren't ready because he is quite a bit older and in a different emotional stage. Since you met him online, it's easier to let this go and simply move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Hey there! Lots of people meet girls or guys online whom they make a connection with and even feel as though they fall in love. In lots of cases, it actually works out pretty well and real-life relationships can come out of it, but other times they don't! Online dating is scary sometimes because the way person comes across over the computer can very well NOT be how he/she is in real life. What's worrying to me in your particular case is that your guy is 22 and is basically saying that he's lusting after you--a 16 year old! While the numbers don't classify this as a case of pedophilia, depending on where you live, if you guys did get intimate, it could be statutory rape. Even more than the legal trouble, if you don't feel comfortable with what he's saying or hinting at, then let him know, and keep your distance! If you feel like this relationship is something you really value and want to keep going, then go ahead. But if he does love you for you, then he should be able to keep it in his pants till you're 18--and even more importantly--until you're ready!
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