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writes:Hey I am a 16 year old guy. I am mixed, my mother is Swedish and my father is Nigerian. I myself was born in Sweden, I wanted to ask you guys if this is a cool mix? Because for some reason I only favor one of the two, which is Swedish, since I grew up there for a short while before moving here. So I am wondering what you guys think about this mix? And also...if there is anything to be ashamed of, because I am indeed a little ashamed of being half Nigerian. But um...what kind of features would I have then? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): A guy with similar heritage became the president of the greatest nation on Earth. What are you ashamed of?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 OP, I don't want to scold you too much because you are only 16 and at your age it's common to be insecure and critical about ourselves, but please do not indulge in this train of thoughts . It's racist, disrespectful to your father, and silly, because you have no control over your genetic heritage.
Besides, from what I have seen, often mixing up races gives excellent, intriguing results from a visual point of view - so chances are you'll get more attention from chicks being who you are than being a classic, fair skinned Swedish.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 What does it matter if it's a 'good mix' or not? It's who you are, right? There's no reason, in itself, to be ashamed of being partly Nigerian (or any other nationality) that I can think of...
I'm surprised at your question "what kind of features would I have then?"...how should we know what sort of features you have, darlin'? Look in a mirror!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Don't downplay the nigerian side! You've got a fantastic conversation starter there! Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (14 April 2011):
I do not understand why you are concerned about something you have no control over! You said you are half Swedish and half Nigerian - but honestly there is nothing you can do to change this. Read up in books on both both races. I am sorry you are somewhat ashamed to be part Nigerian. At 16-17, maybe you can talk with a school counselor who can help you sort out your problem. Or, maybe they can recommend another professional you can talk with. Since this is causing you emotional pain, I suggest the sooner you sort through this - the better for you Good luck!
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