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reader, sexi  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Hi
Go to court and get a garnishee order. If he is working it would be the responsiblity of his employer to deduct the money (an amount agreed upon by yourll) and give it to you. I know this b/c i have garnishee orders which i have to pay over as i do salaries for my company. Try that.
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (19 March 2008):
 Some lawyers will work probono (no cost). It's a program through the organization who licenses lawyers. Or you can contact a child support office. They'll seek the child support as a free service to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): I think older sister has something there, and I also say more power to you. My mom was a single mom.
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reader, yeahsureyoubetcha +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Yes if you are willing to give up stuff you will be ok. Get aid food stamps ect the child support can pay for you childs needs and aid will assist until you are ready for a better job. you probably wont have cable or lots of luxuries but you can do it. You just cant make bad decisions where it comes to money. You are poor, not dead and not injured.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (19 March 2008):
 You don't have to hire a lawyer, there are free services & you file through your government. Most women wouldn't be able to afford going after child support and this is why the government aids and assists you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell no...i dont have the money for a lawyer to go to court and get child support. Its seems like every lawyer wants the unfront fee right then before they even start the work. But I'm having trouble paying bills as it is. However he(my EX) does have money and is just really lazy and holding it over my head to get me to do what he wants. Because until then he won't be helping raising his child. I try not to stress too much but I think now I am developing sleep issues...I sleep maybe 4 hours a night...and have trouble falling asleep because I'm thinking about everything at once. I also have headaches pretty often. But I will take into consideration all of the suggestions...they are well appreciated.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (19 March 2008):
Definitely agree with rcn. You say you have to just deal with cash though, so it's almost like you are saying you can't go after him for child support (child support is tax free to you but it's not in cash) so what's the catch 22? What's really going on here?
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (19 March 2008):
Notify the courts and take him to court to pay his share for his child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Is he paying his child support? Or are you expecting more than that?
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reader, Hope_123  + ♥, writes (18 March 2008):
 I'm not suprised you are super-stressed! :-SMy mum is going through a similar sort of thing.. She's got me to look after still (hate feeling like such a burden!) and my dad (her ex-husband) keeps asking her for money from the house so as he can get fancy things and go on holiday and stuff. But my mum is in no position to do this! She barely has any money and is struggling with everything, she has an extremely low-paid job and is trying to get her old career back so she can earn better money and do a job that she wants to do.. But any courses that she needs to go on to be able to earn more money she's not able to go on because of her present job! It's like a vicious circle.However, I keep telling her to hold on and that something good will happen soon. I give the same advice to you! Don't give up and keep trying.. Your efforts will pay off one day! I promise you! (Gee sorry for sounding like a fortune cookie!) I'm sorry if that hasn't helped much :-(Keep us posted on how everything is going! Good luck with all my heart! xx Hope xx
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reader, Lovesick24 +, writes (18 March 2008):
 1)My family has a very strong belief in the Lord. If you pray to him, he will help you. God is real and God is hope.2)You could try using guilt, and ask your kid to ask his/her dad for money. How is he going to say no to that?Hope this helped, best of luck to you.Sincerly,Lovesick
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