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writes:So you all know me by now. lol my wife couldn't figure what she wanted. well the divorce is over been finalized. Well she has been seeing this guy for 2 months and she talked to me 2 nights ago saying she misses me that she started seeing herself comparing him to me and starting not to be happy with him. well she wanted me to come visit her to see if her feelings were true. we ended up having sex and I left the next morning. She said that she was most likely thinking about breaking up with him after halloween cause she was supposed to go to some party with him. Now I've already set my foot down as to if she wants me back she's really going to have to work for it. She will have to prove to me that she is worth it. I have my eyes one someone but she is also getting out of a marriage and is not ready to date yet so I'm stuck. I would really like my ex wife back she has changed a lot since the last time I talked to her I think she realized I AM capible of the impossible and she is seeing that so I mean I'm not waiting for her to make up her mind but at the same time I can't have this other girl. Any ideas? Should I keep trying for someone else just be patient and kinda wait it out and keep talking about things with my ex seeing if these feelings are true? I dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): wow I feel your pain!!! I to am going through a similar situation and all I can say is:
she cant leave him straight away because of some Halloween party???? thats not right? if she is truly ready to give your marriage another go she needs to start being honest with herself and the people involved, a party is no reason to drag out a reconciliation!
stay strong and make sure she is wanting you back for the right reasons!!!!
good luck buddy
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): if you love your wife...truley you would try and figure things out.
if anything..there is no need to drag another person into this mess! and most of all..that girl your slightly interested in has just come out of a broken marridge so i reckon you put her to the back of your head..
dont make your wife beg too much..after all you love her and she might change her mind.
communication is essential....
sit down...talk about your needs and what you both want and need.
romance is the key!!!
However!....if she has not come back to you...and there is not a good reason for it...then maybe you can reconsider your options...
but for the present time... concentrate on whether this is going to work out for you both xxx
love and god bless xx
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reader, eddie  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 I think you go on with your life. IF she left you and hasn't come back yet, don't be so needy. Keep yourself in the game until you and she are sure what she really wants.
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