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*icnac
writes:I am still stuck, I ended up at my boyfriends best friends house last night. We talked about what had been said and how we should feel guilty, but we dont. I went home to my partner and all I have done since is think about and fantasise over him. Am I slowly falling in love with him or is it just cos i know he cares for me and i think im fallin for him ????
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reader, eddie  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Everything is hard. If you don't have the ability to honor your boyfriend, the leave him. Why do it the dirty way? Since you've already started down that road, it's difficult to make it anything but what it actually is, a rotten event for your boyfriend. He's losing his girlfriend and his friend. A double kick in the butt. The problem is this, you chose to do everything in the wrong order, now you're scrambling and only thinking about yourself. In relationships we owe it to our partners to respect them too. Since you started seeing another guy before you broke up with your boyfriend you don't care about him so much anymore. This makes it easier for you to hurt him.
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reader, nicnac +, writes (20 June 2007):
nicnac is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI cant tho i real think i am starting to get strong feelings for him and last night i was dreamin of him all night and woke up thinking of him, I can hear what your sayin but it is sooooo hard.
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reader, eddie +, writes (20 June 2007):
You don't have a "friendship" with the other guy. Be honest about that. There are sparks flying there and that is not what friends do. knowing what you now know, avoid him.
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reader, nicnac +, writes (20 June 2007):
nicnac is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe reason I ended up at his house last night was because my boyfriend told me to go over and keep him company cos he was going to be out till late. I didnt ask to go. He is a very close friend of his and I dont want to spoil there friendship but saying that i dont want to spoil mines and his friends friendship
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reader, eddie +, writes (20 June 2007):
You didn't "end up" at his house last night, you chose to go. You're creating your own mess. YOU are allowing yourself to go down this path. This is something you need to admit to yourself.
Why do people insist on putting the cart before the horse. If you don't want to be with your current boyfriend, leave him. Why would you try to rub his nose in it by sneaking around with his friend? Are the two of you prepared for the outcome of your deed?
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