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writes:I guess I don't have an exact question I just need to vent and need some advice..I can't stop thinking about my ex boyfriend. I have not contacted him at all since he broke up with me 3 months ago, neither has he. I feel good that I've maintained "no contact". But I am still in love with him and all I do is think about him. I day dream about memories we have shared and wonder if he thinks about me, or misses me like I miss him. It's so hard! I have tried to move on, I go out, try new things, improved my career, and tried to improve myself. But I still find myself missing him. I am afraid I will never get over him, and I am afraid to admit that I have "hope" that he will come back. It's like I secretly don't want to move on or let go. I don't get how he can claim he was so in love with me and want all these things for our future then walk away..
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 November 2013):
 To help you let go, men can say whatever they want when they are caught up in the moment but when they see how reality is so different from the ideal, that's when they back off. He is a dreamer and can't handle reality, so that's not the man you want back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2013): so it would have been better to just string you along? Sounds like he just lost interest or that initial attraction just went away. It's not you, but it does sound like you want to clamp down as hard as possible and refuse to let go. Meanwhile, he wanted his life back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2013): It's only three months ( your in the denial period,) breaking up with a loved one is almost like the process of grief . We begin by denying what's happened and clinging to the hope that the loved one will return .. We then bargain with ourselves ( if only I had done this n that ) then we feel real sad angry and resentful these are all normal responses .. Until we reach acceptance ..Now 3 months is not long, and though you think your not coping and your probably walking around on autopilot at the minute .. That's okey .. Noone can say if he will come back or not .. Depending on the break up would depend on anyone formulating an answer but even at that would only be assuming ..Now myself and my hubby broke up once for around 4/5 month but he was never away from my mothers house ( even though he intiatated the break up) so I would say give it time ..( we got back together) Concentrate on yourself as you are doing .. Try not to dwell on the past .. At the minute as this is blinding you to the ' now'. Concentrate on the now .. Be kind to yourself sweetie it will get better x
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