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writes: Hi, Right. I am 14! I went out with a boy my age some time ago now. We ended but at the same time I liked this other boy that really really liked me and after me and my ex split he still liked me loads. I told him I didn't like him in that way. Now I think I really like him, but he likes some other girl and she likes him now he could still like me. I also like this older guy that's 17 and he's interested in me but now I like the both boys and I can't decide what to do. Risk it and tell the boy I like him and maybe ruin it for him and this new girl or get with the 17year old? Another thng is I don't know how my mum and dad would react to me being with a 17 year old! Not too well I imagine!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (12 July 2005):
 I think you need to be a little bit surer of who you really like before you go any further!
Take your time and don't jump into any relationship too quickly.
I think it would be better to wait until someone else comes along and you just click and also where there are no other complications such as another interested bystander or an age gap that could be concerning.
Have fun with your friends and just play the waiting game. See if someone asks you out and then go from there.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (12 July 2005):
 The first recommendation I have for you is: choose neither.
If you don't feel strongly enough about either boy to pick the one that you like best, then it's likely you don't like either one of them enough to date.
That's OK, you know!
It sounds like you're very young and excited by all the possibilities of dating -- like everyone is at your age. But in the same way that you couldn't try every one of the "31 Flavours" of ice cream when you were eight years old, and you can't wear your 10 best skirts at once - even though you like them all - you don't have to have everything, all at once, just because it's there.
My suggestion is, stay single for a while, enjoy your life and enjoy being able to do what you want, when you want, without worrying about someone else.
Then, when you're absolutely knocked out by some newcomer, (it'll happen) you'll also be free to chat him up, without sneaking around, or hurting the feelings of someone you don't really care that much about.
As a final thought, I wouldn't try dating the 17-year-old. At this time in your lives, there is just too much difference in your outlook and focus, and boys that age can be awfully persuasive when it comes to sex. You could end up doing things you're not ready for, just to try to "keep" him. Never a good idea.
Give it some thought.
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