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writes:Dear Cupid,I don't understand my status with a guy I often hang out with. Honestly, I have started to notice him since late last year. We usually talk over the phone reqarding work matters, but we always lingersa on and chat a bit longer about nothing. And whenever I was at the City Centre, he always make time and hang out with me.However, since early last month, he often asked me out and trouble himself to come to my area and see me. When we went out, he kinda giving me signs that he is interested; eg: like trying to hold my hands and all. I actually let him hold my hands and i actually lean my head on his shoulder in movies.Then, things got sour. He started to contact me less. See me less. He did apologize after I mentioned what he did, but there aren't any explanation. Now sometimes he was sweet, other time he is kinda hurting my feelings. I guess my question here, what exactly happened? I want to ask, but how? By the end of the day, we still have work connection and I don't want us to be awkward. I also don't want to sound needy or whinny (especially in front of him.. hehehe).Could someone guide me please..? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lady Green +, writes (2 October 2013):
Lady Green is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi soveryLCDx & YouWish,
Both of you make sense. I should not bother my time and myself for someone like this.. Maybe he found someone else who he likes better or maybe he is simply a flirty guy..
I will take ur advice and explore my possibilities (possibly with this cuter and taller 20 yr old boy.. hehehe - JK) and see this current guy just as a flirty guy I know from work right :)
Thank you.. I understand better now :) thank you again to you both.. Truly appreciate it :)
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 October 2013):
 I'm thinking there's another woman he's interested in. Did you two get sexual, because you didn't mention it, and If you didn't, something or someone else may have caught his eye. He didn't drop you straight out because he might be hedging his bets.
Either way, you shouldn't be only focused on him either. You have prospects, so go out there and explore YOUR possibilities as well. He's not all that invested into seeing where things go with you. Maybe it's time to cut your losses and find someone more compatible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2013): When he seems like he's all sweetness and hugs, it's just a pretence... He's actually not remotely sweet at all. He was all in your pocket because he wanted some... You didn't give him what he wanted (NSA sex) so now he's got a cob on... Which he has no right to. I recently got off with a guy at work (bad idea I know :/) he seemed like the nicest sweetest guy, walked me home held me, but then when I didn't sleep with him and was just being nice and normal to him at work, he spent the whole time flirting with this other girl, ignoring me, snapping at me and just being a general tw*t. Whatever you feel about someone at work, the professional decent thing to do is to be civil and friendly. Not act like a stroppy teenager. The workplace is for adults. Not only is it immature unprofessional it's not decent behaviour to treat someone hot and cold. Yeah I was upset about this guy but then I realised- he's NOT the nicest guy, therefore NOT worth stressing myself out about... Leave him to it because he doesn't deserve your time. The right thing to do in this situation is to be civil and treat him how you treat other work connections. Good luck! Xx :)
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