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writes:i met a guy through common friends and we got together 2 weeks ago.we don't know each other very well,but i have fun when i am with him.problem is that he is sometimes very nice with me and sometimes i feel he doesn't respect me because he ignores me to talk with his friends.ok,i understand his need to have his friends but i get so annoyed!and when i decide to tell him it's over,i just look at him and i think he is perfect for me and i shouldn't let him go.i don't know what it is,but he pulls me back at him without doing anything!but i have another man in my mind,who happens to be one of his friends.(i believe they are not very good friends)and i think i like him!he seems to like me too,because i always catch him looking at me when my boyfriend is away..i don't know what to do..i don't want to ditch my boyfriend or cheat on him..but his behaviour sometimes annoys me and i told him a thousand times!i see the other guy and wonder what it would be like to be with him..what should i do???help! Reply to this Question
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 Ok first things first dont cheat on him please and not with one of his friends thats the worst thing anyone could do. What has he done to deserve that. I think because you have only being going out 2 week hes got to get used to you and still needs to look cool infront of his mates instead of looking loved up, some men dont like to look soppy in front of there friends just talk to him and tell him how you feel i'm sure he hasent realised he is ignoring you. Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 April 2008):
Don't cheat on him. But why are you letting him get away with being disrespectful?
If he is just a useless boy then he may not realise he is ignoring you, some of them just don't know what they are doing when it comes to being a boyfriend. But you say you have told him lots of times and he is still doing it.
Next time he does it, tell him he's doing it, and if he doesn't stop then pull him to one side and tell him then and there that it is over. Do it while you are still angry if you are too weak to do it when he's putting on the charm. Don't do it in front of his friends though, as that would be cruel.
As for this other boy, maybe he does like you, but you have to decide whether you are going to break up with your boyfriend before you act on it.
Only start flirting with the new guy once you have been single for a few weeks. That way he'll know you are serious and not on a rebound.
Good Luck!! xx
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