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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year now. I love him so much and I have been thinking about my future with him a lot.However, last night some stuff happened between me and a guy at college. I'm really confused and I don't really know why it happened. But now I'm really unsure of what to do.I want to tell my boyfriend, but I'm pretty sure that that'll be the end of our relationship. And I don't know if I can keep it swallowed up.Any advice would be much appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): I think the important thing here is that you find out why it happened. Going to your boyfriend with a 'it just happened' story is a bit lame.
You are in control of your own body, voice and actions. It happened because you let it.
If you don't get to the bottom of this it will happen again.
Trouble with not telling the truth is you will sit there when you're older with him and realise your relationship doesn't really add up to a handful of beans.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): DENY DENY DENY... Take it to your grave if you love this guy. I am sorry to come with the horrible advice BUT if you care about your relationship - then a little slip-up (if thats what it was) should not get in the way. Your relationship will never be the same again if you tell him. If he breaks it off with you then thats it... all for a one night fling. Think about it. How do you know that he hasn't had one anyways...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Tell the truth! He will respect your honesty.. and I don't believe that saying nothing is the best policy! Because you neva know.. and it also clears who you are as being an honest person.. not a LIAR! Truth does hurt.. i have been where you are and it hurt to tell my boyfriend.. but hurt even more to know that I wasn't 100 Percent honest with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Putting aside "honesty is the best policy" for a moment...bottom line is..can you live with what you have done? Is it going to eat away at you if you don't tell him? You don't really explain the situation in detail, were you drunk? Do you have any feelings for this other guy? If you don't, I think I would put it down to a "heat of the moment" thing and let it go. But seriously, if you really love your boyfriend, why are you with other guys? That's something you need to think about.
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reader, rudy~and~riley  +, writes (6 October 2008):
honestly, you must first ask yourself whats best for you, not just whats best for him and his feelings. you sound like the guy at college was just a fling, maybe a semi drunken mistake that was fun and seemed ok at the time. If there is no chance of your boy finding out and you really have no feelings for this other guy, there should be no reason to tell him, for what you did does not affect your feelings for him and what you have going..
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