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writes:Okay I have a big problem. Like a year ago I start going out with a man youngest than me,exactly half of my age. We did have so much good time and we still have it but I know we cant stay together for long because I just don't want nobody in my family find out about us. He became with the idea to marry me and I cant picture myself marry to him. He is always saying that I will break his heart if I let him go. Anyway he always coming back even when I ask him to leave me alone. A few times he threat me that he will show to my kids a video about us. How can I make him understand without breaking his heart that we dont belong together because our age.He is 25 and I'm 49.Please help me what can I do! Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (17 December 2009):
If it is only his age that is a problem for you, then you are making a mistake. There is nothing wrong with dating a guy who is 25; you are getting your groove back, so why cant you just enjoy the experience? Ofcourse if you are fed up with him for other reasons, you can ofcourse break up with him, but if you like him, and you are the one who pays your own bills then no one can decide for you who to see. You dont even have to tell people his real age its none of their business. If it was a 49 year old man and 25 year old woman most people would not even blink! There might be gossip but if you can see beyond the 2 weeks that the talking will last then why not? As for marriage, it probaby isn't a good idea to go that far, but just dating him? Sounds like fun! More power to you. The threats are just a sign of immaturity; worrying but you can probably talk him out of it. If you are that worried about your family's reaction, why dont you ask them what they think? You can sit your kids down and tell them that you are dating someone younger, how does that make them feel. Put yourself at their mercy and tell them if it makes them uncomfortable then you will consider their feelings, which you are already doing!! You might be surprised, especially with examples they can relate to like Demi Moore and Ashton. It will be harder for them to deal with if they find out another way.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (17 December 2009):
 If you don't want to be with him tell him that he must go. If he threatens you go to the police. Get a restraining order if he won't listen to you. Try to destroy any evidence he has of you like those videos first. Seek support groups for battered women because threatening you and your children is a form of abuse. I hope everything will be ok for you and your family.
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