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writes:Okay I'll tell the story:My best friend of 12yrs invited me 2 stay with her while her parents where on a 'romantic break for 2'they wer cool with it and all. I have also known her older brother 12yrs aswell and I'd say we were friends. Anyway my friend metioned a few weeks ago her brother (19) had kept talking about me, I thought nothing of it.Well tonight is my second night at hers and we were all literally snuggled on the sofa watching a movie. My friend went to bed half way through while me and her brother carried on watching it. Anyway things led to others and we had sex in the living room outside her room (we used protection) and it was great he told me he'd liked me for ages and I told him I had too. But now I need help. Do I tell my friend? If not what do I say if she brings it up? And how should me and he act around each other? Niether of us want to upset her
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reader, Skyscraper16  +, writes (9 September 2013):
You can tell her, but!* be sure that she's really your bestfriend and will keep your secret safe.*and she's not a mocking jay (likes to gossip).But if she's not someone it rely on, don't tell her. And if you believe at the saying "There's no secret that cannot be revealed" Don't worry, you just did it ALREADY. People out here already knows, so act cool and live life again like a kid.Remember, sex is not yet suited for your age. Health problems may pose, psychologically, mentally, emotionaly, and physically. And believe me honey, it'll be good for you not to go back at ur bff's house for a pajama party, her brother is a pedo, it's NOT SAFE.Enjoy your childhood first, I'm sure when you reach our age you'll miss it, like you've never thought you will. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): Just was glancing at the answers and was astounded at the low quality of 'iamheretohelpyou''s comment. Just because he had the condoms doesn't mean he planned it - she was over to see her friend. Teenage boys always keep condoms at her house, by no means does it mean that he manipulated the situation from the get go! You should be ashamed of trying to put that image on him.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (8 September 2013):
 OP, you're making it sound like it was a one-night stand. Is that the case, or do you want to start a relationship with the brother?
If you want to start a relationship then your friend will have to know at some point. And both sets of parents.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 September 2013):
 Are you 100% sure that she was asleep and knew nothing?
I think it would be a bad idea to have sex with him again. You are at their house and his parents would not like it at all that you were abusing your privilege. If you can be sure that you can restrain yourself and not touch him again, then I would not tell your best friend.
I have a brother, I know he is a horny guy. I would not like to think of him being sexual with a close friend. For the next few days you and him should act like nothing had happened.
I would say there is a 50/50 chance that people are okay with their siblings dating their best friends. Based on your age there will be bias because people will always tell you how most relationships at your age fail. Best friends are forever but boyfriends come and go.
We've all been young and probably a lot of us had done something like this. I can't say that he is just after the sex. Her brother is probably scared now and would not dare asking you out. He is wanting your input on this because you would have to be willing to risk your friendship with her. If you do decide to date him and take a risk, you have to let your best friend know that you still care about her and will find spare time with her as much as possible.
If you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to make decisions like this. I would not tell my friend until you are very sure that you and him could be a solid couple. "What do I say if she brings it up?" Like why you and him are so close? Right now she is not suspecting anything so don't panic until you have to.
I don't know if the three of you are together the whole time but if you have free time alone with him you have to have a serious talk. If he too feels like a relationship is too stressful then you need to distance yourself from him. You make a firm decision then stick to it. You are either dating him exclusively or you ditch him completely. That night that you slept with him will be kept in your diary until old age and no one ever reads it. Even when you become his girlfriend you need to find some other place to have sex. It just feels wrong using the couch where every family member sits on.
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