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writes:About 2 months into the relationship, I was curious about whether he was a virgin or not... but he wouldn't tell me and wanted to know if I was. I wasn't sure what to do--tell the truth and have the chance that he might think i'm a slut, or lie. So I told him I was a virgin but he never ended up telling me himself so I decided to leave it at that and not tell him the truth.Eventually, we had sex and I brought up the question again. He seemed experienced so I was really curious as to how many times. He asks me again if I was, and I told him the truth. He flipped out and tells me that he was a virgin before me and that he was hoping that he lost it to someone "pure". Now he claims that I'm dirt and someone's leftovers. He's mad and won't speak to me now. I don't know what to do; I feel completely awful. :(HELPPPPPPPP. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): I doubt he was a virgin (more likely he's a 'player'). And if he was, he certainly wasn't one with high morals like he wants imply right now.
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 What a dick.
Ignore him but if it gets too much, go and tell someone. Tell your friends, they'll back you up.
Seriously, if a guy is acting like that, it;s better to just stop talking to him, not in a childish way but..you know.
Tell him where to stick it.
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (22 November 2008):
 What a bastard. He should have though about it before if it meant that much to him. Obviously he couldn't tell the difference between someone 'pure' and someone who's had sex. Tell him to go jump.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): You should think twice if you really want a boyfriend (or husband) who thinks about women in that way...
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (22 November 2008):
the guy is a dick. walk away from him if he thinks like that. if he had been honest with you from the start that he was a virgin then maybe you wouldn't of felt so pressured to make out that you had never had sex. he's not worth the worry, just forget about him and leave him to worry about being unpure and all that tosh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Why did you lie? your not a slut for having slept with someone else. Maybe he had it in his head, he wanted to sleep with a virgin. It seems pretty obvious he was only after sex, it's a good thing you weren't a virgin!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): leave him. If he was so concerned about being pure, he would have waited until marriage regardless. He was probably lying to you in the first place.
Don't tolerate emotional abuse. Leave him.
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