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Shouldn't we just 'get over it' if we break up with someone? Anyone believe this?

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Question - (29 August 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 August 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi there..i know this is a pretty random question..but id like to know....

Who belives that when you break up with someone .. or when someone tells you the truth and its not what you wanted to hear .. that theres no real point sulking and feeling sorry for yourself.. because its already happened and you cant change it .. so you should just get over it...

who belives that..

any comments welcome..

Thank you.. All the best

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A female reader, bemused Canada +, writes (29 August 2007):

bemused agony auntYour post is well written for someone your age. Reading between the lines I think you are feeling some pain right now and you are feeling more alone because that pain is not disappearing. No doubt people have told you to get over it and it is not happening. I liked what Fallenangel said about the fact that the wounds will continue but the marks will remain. I believe that the loss of someone we love often stays with us forever but time and the welcoming in of new people and new events in our lives will eventually take the pain away...to a point. If you are not 'getting over it'....sit tight. Are you out and about...keeping busy...these things help. You sound intelligent and like a bit of thinker. Try to not think about it too much as this will add to your pain.

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A male reader, fallenangel Singapore +, writes (29 August 2007):

hi,

while it is a good idea to stop sulking and feeling sorry for yourself over something which already happened and cant be undone, it is also a matter of whether it is possible or not, at least for the time being. time can heal wounds, but the marks will remain.

'just get over it' is much easier said than done, with time, it is possible, its worth a try, only if you think it is. there is no absolute answer to your question, you will hear a lot of varying opinions, but in the end its still up to you.

take care

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (29 August 2007):

sexi agony auntHi, its easier said then done.You have to get over it (no doubt) but it may take some time depending on the efect of what has happened.No one should be rushed into gettiing over anything as this is a process that only the person experinecing it would know best how to handle.

Hope this helped,maile me if you wanna talk

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