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36-40,
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writes:About a year ago, I started seeing this guy over the summer. Long story short, after about a month of seeing each other (and not being too serious) his ex came back into the picture. He ended things with me to see his ex. After about a week, his ex ended things with him. He started writing to me again and told me it was a huge mistake but he had stronger feelings for her at the time. I understood why he did what he did, but I didn't agree to see him again. After about 6 months of keep in touch, I decided to see him again. We went on a date and things went great. I told him I was busy with school and I wouldn't have time to see him. So after that date, he barely wrote to me. And if he did, I ignored him because I didn't want to start having feelings for him and have it affect my school work.I ran into him recently and he told me he wanted to go out to eat again. To my surprise, he also moved into my neighborhood. He didn't tell me.. but I think it's because I was ignoring him. Anyway, we had spoke about going out for dinner... but it still hasn't happened. I don't know if I'm being a little bit impatient or if he's just giving up slowly. He told me he thought I had a boyfriend because I was ignoring him. I didn't say anything. My friend said she thinks I should show a little interest and text/call him and make plans.. but I feel like he should be the one making the plans. Help!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 June 2010):
You just shouldn't have anything to do with him. Come on here, this is a guy who dumped you for his ex. That's the first red flag and is the biggest. He then decided to draw you back in by writing to you claiming that he was sorry and it was all a big mistake. Then you had a date and he didn't really fight for you at all. Then he moved into your neighbourhood and didn't say anything. Then you spoke about having dinner and it didn't happen. How much more of this half assed treatment are you going to take? He's just not bothered at all.
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