Should we get married?

A female age , *lassyWoman writes:

Hi there! I am a Fifty two year old business women who has been living with a great guy for 9 months now but I still do not seem to be comfortable with the idea. He lived 2 hours away when we met and ended up starting a business up and because funds were short he moved in with me and let his house go. I was completely besotted with him. It kind of just happened. I spoke to him at the time and said it was not something I was comfortable with and upset me as it goes against the grain even though I love him dearly. I wanted to get married but he does not want to for now and one part of me know that is sensible not to rush in but the other side tells me that he is trying before buying. I am supporting the new business and paying for everything although he does not get paid a wage from the business he does a lot of work for my business (it is in my name). He thinks we should wait to get married. I feel embarrassed when people refer to him as my husband. I am an old fashioned girl with old fashioned morals and do not seem to be able to shake the guilts!!!. People who have known me are really surprised that I am living with someone. I was married for 30 years and was a “goodie two shoes”. I met my new man 12 months after I separated and he moved in after 9 months.. I was divorced over 12 months ago and I have had to deal with all the emotional stuff and he has been a brick. My man thinks it is too soon for me to be getting married again. Should I put aside my feelings and hang in there?? Everytime I think about our situation I get a sinking feeling in my stomach…….would marriage cure this feeling???

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A female reader, xanthic  +, writes (16 September 2010):

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