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Should my 65 year old mother try online dating?

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Question - (9 January 2018) 6 Answers - (Newest, 10 January 2018)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi ,

Thanks for always being helpful. My mom is 65 years old. My father passed away ten years ago. My mom feel very lonely. I do my best to spend time with her but still she feel lonely. I advice her to date someone. She is happy with my idea. But, she don’t want to have sex with someone. She need just companion not sexual relationship.

Do you think it could be possible to find someone who is not interested in sex as well?

She is 65. Can she try online dating? Or it’s too late for her. I just want to her happy. I don’t feel good whenever I go out and she is by herself. She lives with me.

Thanks in advance

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2018):

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Hi ,

OP here, thanks for all replies. Honeypie, she is looking for partner. She want to spend time with someone. She has friends but purfer to find someone.

Yes , I will see if I could help her with online dating.

Thanks again

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A male reader, TylerSage United States +, writes (10 January 2018):

TylerSage agony auntIt's never too late for anything once you have life.

She's a grown woman and sometimes grown women want companionship and a comfortable male figure in her life.

The very fact that she didn't shun the idea of dating means she is quite open minded and willing to find something new. Look for dating sites that match her age group unless of course she is open to younger men then she can try them all. Have her join clubs and groups to meet people who have similar interests as her. She pretty much just wants friends to keep her company and share similarities with her.

It isn't fair to assume that because your mom is now older that all her needs, dreams and desires should just rot and die. She's human and she seems like the type who wants to live life. Let her.

As her son however, make sure you vet the people she hangs around. Old people, biological, become more trusting towards others as they age. Make sure she hangs around the right people and not around abusers or those who aim to take advantage of her.

All the best.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2018):

She might try volunteering and pursuing hobbies. Senior centers have a lot of activities she could participate in. Nothing wrong with dating sites for seniors. Just make sure she's careful and please do background checks.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (9 January 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntTry hobby groups, but also look online for companionship websites where older people just want a platonic or sex-free friendship/relationship. Just make sure your mum still knows red flags to avoid.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (9 January 2018):

There are reputable dating-sites geared towards people 50-60 and over.

Sex isn't forced on anyone. Most dating sites come with rules for membership; and may suspend or cancel subscriptions for violators.

My dear, most men 65 and older are looking for the same-thing as your mother. You don't find a lot of sexual-predators in your mother's age-group! Most men have tapered-off sexually that late in life. They just want to meet ladies for companionship; and someone of their generation they can talk and relate too.

Just keep in-mind, pickings are slim for people her age. Mainly because sites cater to younger-folk in their 50's; and women tend to outlive men after 60!

You have to be careful on all dating sites. There are always people who misbehave regardless of age; but older people tend to behave themselves. That is, if they really want to find good company and to maintain good-standing on the site.

If you Google under best dating sites for seniors; you can find a variety of sites, or narrow your search by location. There is no age-limitation to dating; everyone needs romance and companionship.

I would recommend that she search by gold-star rating and choose well-known sites. You can get free-subscriptions or pay. Pick the sites with the highest-ratings; which choose a better class of people, who undergo a screening process.

Note their ratings, the ratios male to female, and read some of the comments from users.

Good luck!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (9 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntHonestly?

I would look more for meetup groups in her "age group" - what hobbies does she have?

There are plenty of activity groups for over 50+ it's just a matter of finding one SHE likes.

My guess is she is more looking for company rather than a partner.

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