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Should I wait or save myself

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Question - (28 June 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 30 June 2010)
A male United States age 36-40, *outhernman321 writes:

I am a 24 year old guy. I have never had a serious relationship in my life. I have a feeling 98 percent of guy my age have already had sex. I never have. I have tried to wait for something serious but I honestly have never been treated right by girls. I will be 25 soon and I wanted to have sex while I was young so I would enjoy it more. My question is should I continue to wait for the right girl or should I just go ahead and find a girl and do it? Thanks

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010):

Aww you sound exactly like a close friend of mine. He is the same age and everything. He puts such pressure on himself because he always thought he'd be married and have a kid by this age. He is also a virgin who was waiting for the right girl, he was worried about possibly getting pregnant and wanted to wait til he was with a girl he knew he could handle that with if it happened. But like you now he's starting to think he should just give it all up and go for whatever girl comes his way. My advice to him and you is to keep waiting, honestly why not? Just because you have sex one time and get rid of the virgin label isn't going to change who you are as a person, but if you do it just to get rid of the label you may regret it and that's worse. 25 is still young, hell 35 is still young, do you think older people don't have sex...don't have great sex? It's not like your clock is tickin, relax and wait for the right girl, trust me you and her will both appreciate it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010):

If you're a virgin, people tell you not to compromise. They say to wait and make it special for yourself and for a partner you care about.

But if you want to lose it with another virgin, the same people tell you you're making too big a deal out of some stupid outdated religious thing.

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A female reader, maxxie United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

maxxie agony aunti think you should wait for someone you at least really like and care for, maybe not love but atleast something special. nothing wrong being a virgin. you will enjoy sex when you have it :) good luck finding a girl worth your time... and dick :)

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A female reader, followtheblackrabbit Cayman Islands +, writes (28 June 2010):

followtheblackrabbit agony auntI truly think that if you do it with some random girl, you'll kick yourself later when an awesome girl comes along. I'm not saying to wait forever, but at least wait for a girl you genuiningly like and trust. You dont want your first to be some nasty, idiotic girl who wouldn't even appreciate the fact that you're sharing the experience with her. You have something special, you just don't know how many girls wish and wish to share a sexual encounter with a virgin...yes, we find that special and sweet too. Just as men are entranced by virgins, so are women. Keep strong, wait for a girl you truly like, one you won't regret.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (28 June 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt As long as the girl knows and agrees that it's just no strings attached casual fun. If she wants the same, go ahead.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010):

There's nothing saying you have to wait in life, especially if you feel noone presently around you has ever been worth waiting for, and the girls don't treat you right anyway. Go and have fun, but be very careful with a promicuous lifestyle, since STD's like to live that lifestyle, too. Don't trust a girl who's on the pill to not have a baby with you, and double up if you have to, since condoms aren't perfect, but if you bring your own and know that noone poked any holes through the wrapper, it'll be plus. Read up about STD's and protection, and go have fun, since the world isn't going to wait for you, so why wait for it until you're 50.

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