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writes:Hello dear cupid, I have a serious problem,Okay I met him almost two years ago, the first time I saw him I liked how he was, I didn't know him that well so I didn't think about him as something in my future, well then we had the chance to get to know each other and well we end up liking and loving each other, so we dated for months then breakup then get together then break up and so on. Well he has been waiting for me for more than a year, he said that he would rather wait than move on because he hopes things will get better between us. The main problem is that my parents do not like him at all and it makes me really sad cause I would love for them to see how he is but every time my parents see him for some odd reason he looks really bad for example: long hair baggy clothes etc. He still says he loves me but I have stopped telling him that cause I am so confused about my feelings, I really don't know what to do, if I should wait until I'm ready or just to let him go... I don't want to wait if I know that this will go nowhere. I don't want to waste his time on me if we are not going together, So my question is should I wait and let time tell or should I just let him go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): Well it sounds like deep down inside you kind of agree with your parents. They want more for their daughter. And so do you. Maybe they feel that this guy is kind of immature and is not really going anywhere in life. And so of course they want to see you with someone who can offer you more.
And parents often are right on a lot things. And maybe even though you want more too, you just, perhaps, haven't met anyone better, at this moment, and so you don't want to let him go because of that.
But it sounds like you come from a good family and soon enough you are going to be exposed to guys who fit you and your aspirations a lot better than he does. And when you do, I think you are going to realise that you don't really want to be with this guy anymore. So I think you should let him go now because if not now, you are going to do it sooner or later. And like you say, you don't want to keep stringing him along.
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reader, InDesperateNeedOfHelp  +, writes (21 August 2007):
Hey, for a start, life it WAY to SHORT to sit and wonder. I can guarentee, you'll then end up aying, if this or but that. Snap out of that frame of mind. I've got a girlfriend, but i don't love her, i'm afraid to say, i'm leading her on down a dead end, but i can't bring myself to finnih with her (HELP).
But, once you split, and get back together, you instantly know that you will break again, so why wait for that time to come. You could have found somebody new, in the time it could have took.
Good luck.
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