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writes: I have a crush at school and he's very shy and quiet. Normally, I would just be nice and say hi without being too excitable, we do not talk much at all obviously, because yknow it's only been a week and a half since I developed this crush and I don't like just...brushing up on people that I like you know because I don't know him well and he doesn't know me, but my friend(who knows my crush well) keeps telling me that I should go sit next to him and try talking to him...And I would, but there's just one issue I have, and I hope I don't sound racist or anything because I'm not but, so in the morning my crush is sitting with all of his buddies I presumeand they are all asianI am blackAnd I have been hearing from some of the teachers that most of the asian students at the school I attend do not really fraternize with the black students and that they are quiet.So, you could say that I fear that if I just waltz up towards my crush and his group and be like Hi, how are you? and try to talk to him and be friendsthat I'll get no response and him and his friends will look at me all weird and I will earn my Epic Fail badge of the day.Do you think that despite this I should try and talk with him and his friends or wait a while longer? Is it worth a shot?
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (18 January 2012):
 Why not? Instead of focusing on gaining the "epic fail badge", focus on the "badge of bravery" and just talk to him.
You don't need to go right into it, maybe just say hi, talk to him generally and maybe try to find times when he is not with his friends.
It's great that you are pushing the culture and race boundaries aside and mixing with other people, this is what the world needs. So don't listen to what people say, do what you feel is right.
If you try and don't get anywhere at least you did something you were not comfortable with. It will make it easier for you for any future crushes! Then again maybe you will find out he likes you too.
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