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writes:I am in a dilema and not sure if it is the end of the line for me and my partner. We have been together for 5 years now and during this time I have a couple of other occasions to doubt him but somthing has happened again. He travels abroad a lot and this time he took my computer by mistake. On his return the other day just by accident I was in the computer history and along with all his work stuff there were some rather undesireable sites that he had contacted. Such as,'f*** buddy' london, where to pick up women in london,no strings sex, mistress venus (S and M with phone numbers) and a few similar sites. The last time I came across something was a couple of years ago, again by accident, picked up his phone thinking it was mine and there were text messages to what only must have been a prostitute arranging to meet by the nature of the language he had used. Then on another occasion on his return from abroad I found dozens of condoms in his suitcase when I was taking out his dirty laundry. This last incident has floored me as on the previous occasions he talked me into giving him the benefit of the doubt. I asked him to explain and he said that he was bored in his hotel room when he was working in Cairo. I could understand him looking at porn if he was bored but not checking out placed to go on his return. But now I wonder if he is checking out such places when he is abroad. I wanted to know if he has been to these places before but said not but said that we needed to spice up our sex life. When i asked him how we should do that he said that he would like to pick me up at a hotel bar. Well, his answer immediately made me think that this is what he obviously likes to do for his thrills and can only now believe that he is visiting various pick-up joints for no attachment sex.He is off again travelling and I feel sick in the stomach and I was only thinking the other day how happy I was and now I have been shattered.Do I give him the benefit of the doubt again or have his bags packed on his return next week.
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reader, annalee123 +, writes (23 February 2010):
annalee123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question A good explanaton last post as I have no objection to him looking at porn (as I am sure a lot of men do and is quite harmless) except he is based in Cairo at the moment (though his server might be through the london office). That site bothered me a lot so lets see if he can justify same on his return like you have said. Thanks for taking time to let me know about the pop up thing, might sleep better tonight!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): The "'f*** buddy' london" thing can actually be explained pretty easily. When visiting free porn sites, a pop-up window usually comes up that gives "f*** buddy in X location" info based on where you are geographically located. It's a scam and most everyone simply ignores the pop-up window. But it's in your internet cache and will appear as a visited site... got in trouble with that myself, but demonstrated and explained to my partner. As to the other stuff??? red flags galore. But I'd chill on that item (unless you have porn objections).
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Sorry. It seem like he is looking for things elsewhere. You deserve better.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Ummm, why are you even contemplating over-looking this sleazy dirtbag's secret life of smut? Get rid of him before he brings you home a gift that you need antibiotics to cure.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 February 2010):
You found texts, you then found the condoms, now you've found this. That's three chances you've given him. And that's enough. This time end it.
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