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Should I tell the other girl about his cheating?

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Question - (31 May 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 May 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hi I just found out 2 days ago (by chance) that the guy I have started dating has a girlfriend. He doesn't know that I know this as I havnt confronted him yet. I'm feeling so hurt as I love him but I will obviously not see him again now I know he is a cheater/player. I'm SO glad I found out the truth !

from what I have found out he must have started dating her about 3 months ago. And me about 2 months ago. He told me we were boyfriend and girlfriend but i felt something wasn't right when he had not introduced me to his friends after 2 months And when I said I would add him on fb he said he didn't have one. (I search for him last night and found his profile on fb and it says he is "in a relationship " with the other girl. Well know I know he obviously has been hanging out with the other girl with his friends.

I feel hurt that I was some sort of side girl to him. Like I wasn't good enough to be his girlfriend he showed off to his friends. I feel so naive and stupid and I think i will be Very cautious when I meet someone again before giving my whole heart to someone .

Anyway, the question I would love to ask is , should I tell his girlfriend that he has been cheating on her with me ?

I was so glad when I found out so I could get rid of him from my life but will she feel the same ?

We are not friends so she might think not believe me. But I just know that if the shoe was on the other foot I would be SO grateful to know !

Please tell me your thoughts

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2015):

I was in a situation where a boy and I were friends for a long time, he dated this girl for a long time, they always sounded rocky, but that was relationship not mine. There came a point when he told me that they broke up,.. maybe some time later we tried dating a little bit and it really didn't work out, so I ended it quickly.

About a year later that same girl wrote me over fb to let me know that they were still together when we "were seeing each other" when I red that, his actions seemed to make more sense. I apologized to her, explained to her that I was under a different assumption, and the boy an I have not really talked much. I really don't miss him that much either.

If you can find a calm, non confrontational way to let the other girl in, I would say go for it. I would make sure you had as much info about her situation as you can without being too creepy, and maybe find out if the guy is a player with any girl that walks in his path. Maybe he does have plans to be faithful,.. maybe they have an open relationship,..

but beware, you could get any kind of response back.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (31 May 2015):

Honeypie agony auntIf you have "proof" as in texts, emails or what not then YES, I'd tell her.

YOU did nothing wrong. He lied to you. Probably to her too.

You sounds like you dodged a bullet there.

What an asshat!

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