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writes:I am in somewhat of a dilemma. I have been dating a man for 2 1/2 years now. We moved in together and recently his best friend moved into our house too. All was fine until his best friend kissed me. Nothing major I'd say but its made it uncomfortable for me. I don't want to tell my partner as he'll be devastated even though nothing will come of it, which is understandable. I'm guessing I'm just gonna have to make out it never happened but I feel like I'm the one in the wrong.Any advice would be much appreicated
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 I would only tell him if the friend tried it again. Let that guy know that he is behaving very badly and it is not acceptable and should he try that again you will inform your boyfriend. Perhaps he won't try again and the problem is solved. But maybe say to your boyfriend that his friend makes you uncomfortable so that he doesn't think you are part of this and are not playing games that make him paranoid or jealous.
Set the rules with the friend and tell him he needs to show respect for you and his friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): How have things been left with the friend? Does he seem guilty? regretful? Promised never to do it again?
If not then why wouldn't you tell your boyfriend? His best friend obviously isn't really his best friend, and if I were him, I'd want to know the truth and I would want to know about it if my supposed friend had done this.
I think also once you tell your boyfriend, you won't feel in the wrong. You probably feel a bit guilty now because you are keeping it all a secret?
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