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writes:should i tell my friends ex that i have feelings for her? I went off to college and was introduced to my friend's girlfriend,we ended up having a class together and started hanging out studying. which soon steam rolled into us goin out to eat and clubing with some of her friends etc.she has come over to my apartment and watched movies in my room(nothing happened) which made me feel uncomfortable because this is my friends gf at the time and im starting to fall for her.We workout together all the time and talk alot.I can't tell if she is just being my friend or really has feelings for me as well,but is afraid to show them like me. i have thrown little comments out though that make it seem like i have no feelings for her what so ever because i also fear losing my friend.I asked others for advice and they said i'd lose my friend if i started dating her but i feel she is the one. i have never had a steady relationship because others have never meshed, but her and i match perfectly. we have everything in common and she makes me laugh all the time.sometimes she will text me in the morning and wake me up; im instantly overwhelmed with excitement.Guys say all the time that they "love" this person and things of that nature. I can't exactly say what love is, but i do know that whenever im with her i feel like everything is perfect. Im afraid if i come out with the truth she won't feel the same way or that she will the same way and we date = i could lose a friend i've known since grade school. this has been tearing me in half for a month. can someone please help me!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): hey, i read your situation and noticed it was from 08. i am currently going through the same thing. every thing you said you 2 did is what were doing right now, but the only thing thats different is that they havent broken up yet. im just wondering what you did because like you i dont want to lose my friend or make it seem very weird between her and i if i tell her how i feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): I've been in this situation before.
Whatever you do, do not act behind your friend's back. That's very important. Tell him about everything before you tell her.
And this is corny, but do what your heart tells you to do.
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