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writes:This guy I just started seeing usually contacts me every couple of days and we have seen each other a couple of times. He basically told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, but if that is true, then why does he do romantic things for me like cook, light candles, and generally want my company? He even has invited me to stay the night a couple times each time mentioning that nothing sexual had to happen if I didn't want...and we'd cuddle in bed. What does this guy want from me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Men usually ARE straight to the point and mean what they say. However, if he's thinking that he'll frighten you off by mentioning the 'commitment' word, he may be holding back from telling you how he really feels about you. The only way you're going to get to the bottom of it is if you communicate. It's no good trying to second-guess each other all the time.
If you like him, tell him you like him. It's as simple as that and there's no need to be subtle about it. If he doesn't reciprocate ask him how he feels about you and where he'd like this friendship to go in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): ide say he has feelings for you but is just to nervous to come out and say it most real men are like that take me it took me 3 years to tell my girlfriend how i felt and i never got nervous about anniething except telling her if you like him tell him and go from their
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): what would be a good, subtle way to imply that i like him then somehow? i kind of think that he is a little scared, so i dont want to freak him out or anything. i always figured men are very straight to the point, and they mean what they say. so when he said he didnt want a relationship i took that very seriously and am respecting that. or am i wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Maybe he's practising for when he does want a relationship? I guess he's telling you that he likes you a lot but he still wants to retain his single status for the time being. If you fancy some exercise in the bedroom that's fine by him but don't read any more into it than that - in other words don't get any fancy ideas about total commitment or marriage.
He obviously likes you a lot, he enjoys cooking and he likes to make the odd romantic gesture to please you. He's also trying his hand at seduction but leaving it up to you to make the decision. He sounds like a gentleman to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): i have said i didn't want a relationship before mainly not to rush things or thinking thats what she wanted to hear.If it starts to click than it turns into a relationship. have you told him your not looking for anything serious??? if not than he is afraid to fully express how he feels about you. obviously he must like you if he is making dinner and asking you to stay. if your interested in him than i think you should imply that somehow. because most guys really do want a relationship. Give it some time because its hard for us guys to tell if you like us as much as we like you! ;) good luck hope i helped a little
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): he loves u .. but dont know how to express.. I think u should give him time
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