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writes:Me and my boyfriend of 2 years split up around 3 weeks ago due to stupid things and my boyfriend feeling like he was under pressure from other sources. We have stayed in contact and over various discussions he has told me that what he did was a mistake and that he still loves me very much and its taking loosing me to realise.I went over a few days ago and we ended up cuddling up to one another and talking, and eventually one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together. He got very emotional during and afterwards and said it had reminded him of the past and he had been so stupid. He has remained in a good attitude towards me since and i have no regrets about it, and we are working slowly towards reforming our relationship, i have however niggling doubts that it was the wrong thing to do, despite the fact it felt right and nothing horrible has happened since, infact our attitude towards each other is ten times better than it ever was. Should i tell him i have niggling worries or should i just ignore them and see what happens.
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 The answer is right there in your question: "our attitude towards each other is ten times better than it ever was."
That says it right there. You two suffered some pain of separation and realized how much better you are together.
Cuddling and making love were a natural way to heal the hurt.
You should ignore the "niggling doubts". Those are ego-driven issues and they're nagging fears that're bothering you. Forget the negative feelings and try focusing on the real relationship, not the shadowy doubts.
The fact of the matter is that if he was under pressure from other people or things, he learned a valuable lesson in that he shouldn't let them interfere with your relationship together. And I think if the two of you work together on making your relationship stronger and better than it ever was, you'll be happy together.
From what you wrote, its already stronger and better than before. Those doubts should be ignored.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 September 2009):
 I'd just ignore them and see what happens. Slow and easy wins the race.
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