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writes:so as a teen(maybe when i was 15 or 16 i had a boyfriend who i had gone out with for about 2-3 years. we had sex....and we were truly in love.... but then he moved. :( now i have a fiance. we've been dating for about 2 years. and i love him so much......but now hes asking me about my past sexual life...should i tell him that i already had sex with someone else as a teen...or does it not really matter because after all...i was only a teen...should i tell him or not? please help!
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Are you asking this question because he has indicated he would care whether you came into this relationship as a virgin or not? He might just be curious, and want to get to know all about you. If he does expect that you have not had sex, ask him about HIS past. A man who expects it from you but assumes he can have any past he wants needs re-evaluating. You have only had one other sexual partner, which shouldn't bother even the most squeamish of people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): Yes, Miame is correct.
He has the right to care about the subject. (There is a wide range about how much or little men care. Just like there is a wide range about how much or little sexual activity the man himself has chosen to engage in.) He has the right to ask you questions. He has the right not to hear lies, or statements so misleading that they might as well be lies.
You have the right to refuse to answer questions if you choose. He will have to make up his own mind based on whatever you will or won't tell him.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 Either tell him the truth, or tell him it's not of his business and refuse to answer. He has the right to know if you are a virgin or not but nobody has the right to your past secrets.
Many men have issues when you tell them your sexual history, many men do not. But do not LIE, that will cause you many problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): Maybe he wants to know because STIs are real.
And different people have different sexual values.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 November 2011):
 Ask him why he wants to know.
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