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writes:I have recently developed a close friendship with a guy. We have a lot of chemistry, but until now or relationship has remained platonic. We went out last night and drank a little too much. We ended up back at my place in a few very sensual embraces, but he wouldn't kiss me back when I tried to kiss him. He said he doesn't want a girlfriend right now because he just got out of a relationship. I told him I wasn't looking for a relationship either, but he said he didn't believe me. He also said he was very attracted to me and would have sex with me all night if he didn't care about seeing me again, but he didn't want to ruin anything.We haven't talked about what happened, but I feel kind of hurt and rejected. I would like to keep him as a friend, but I would also like to explore this chemistry we have. Should I talk to him about what happened or should I just give him some time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): redgreen 0289 is on the money!he didnt take advantage of the situation and could've and most would've.appreciate his honesty and ability to talk to you.Apparenly he does value your friendship and does'nt want to let a 1 night stand come between your friendship.respect it!
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (14 March 2010):
I would talk to him about this, just leaving it alone always creates more problems. I've been in your situation, and we never talked about it and things got strange, and now we do not talk anymore.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (14 March 2010):
Do you want his as a BF or a one night stand? He told you he likes you and that he would have screwed you as a one-night stand... but he also told you that he likes you and doesn't RIGHT NOW want a relationship...
You need to understand what you want... it sounds like you wanted sex and to be able to keep the future romance a real possibility, which he's told you is NOT a combination he's willing to do.
After you've figured out what you want talk to him... he sounds like he knows what he wants. Don't feel rejected BTW, you should feel honored that he likes you enough to not have taken the quick and easy sex.
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