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writes:We've been dating three weeks he says that he knows I'm the one he will marry, he's been divorced 9 years. We share Worldview and our basic values are similar. His invited me to meet his family and friends. I feel like I'm being seduced is it too good to be true he tells me everything o have ever wanted to hear from a man. I don't know if I should trust this. I'm getting over A relationship with someone who was taking advantage of me , a narcissist. I'm scared to be just as wrong about my new Beau, the two are very different I don't trust myself anymore. Should I take the chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Dating is ok but i certainly wouldnt be talking about marriage after just 3 weeks. He sounds a little desperate. Take your time with him and really get to know him before you do anything drastic. Sometimes when things seem to good to be true thats because they are. Time will tell x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): I think it's understandable that you are worried, after what you experienced with your previous partner. You are still trying to get over what happened in that relationship, so maybe this all feels a bit too much at the moment.
Maybe it feels like things are moving too fast. In my opinion, talking about marrying you after three weeks of dating is definitely rushing things a bit! So maybe you need to tell him that you would like to slow down a bit, and just see how things go. There's no rush, but he may have just got a little over-excited and jumped ahead! So try telling him that things are moving a bit too fast for you, and you'd like to relax about things more. He may not realise how you feel, and if you tell him it might help.
With you wondering if it is too good to be true, I wonder if this is because your self-esteem has been knocked from the last guy. Maybe deep down a part of you can't believe you could find someone who would treat you better. Maybe you even worry that you don't deserve any better. If you do have any of those thoughts, try not to pay attention to them. Don't let them get in the way of this relationship. You do deserve someone who will treat you nicely. But what with your recent break-up, you may be a bit fragile and vulnerable right now. But I think with time, it will get better.
I hope something has helped. Good luck. x
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 He may well be genuine, but 3 weeks is a little soon to start meeting family and friends.
On saying that everyone is different, relationships move at different paces. It may give you a better insight into his life by meeting his family and friends.
But work on your own pace and time, dont rush things, if its meant to be it will all work out.
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