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writes: My boyfriend of 18 months is soon moving overseas. It was something he had planned before we got together,and I guess he wants to experience the world by himself, and gain freedom and independence to see what it's like. However, I hate the thought of being apart from him and would like more than anything to go with him. He said that while he knows that he will really miss me,and that I mean a lot to him, he wants to get over and see how he feels before he decides if he wants me to join him or not, in case his feelings change. I've heard of people not knowing what they've got, or how much they really love somebody until they are away from them, so I respect his decision and have hopes that he will decide he wants me there. He leaves at the time when I finish studying, and have to get a job etc, but if I am going by the chance that I could go overseas, it would mean that I would have to make major changes, such as having to move home again in order to save money. Any ideas what I should do?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (12 May 2006):
 Hmm this is tricky. Either way you risk something, if you let go you run the risk that you wont be able to get closure knowing that there was a possibility it could of worked out, if you bank on him asking you to join him then you run the risk he wont and you will lose a chunk of your life needlessly.
I think this is one of those things which is impossible to call sitting here; you have to follow your heart. When the rational arguments stack up evenly then you should listern to what your instincts are telling you. Sorry if thats not much help. Take care.
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