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writes:I'm asking for advice on my bf daughters, they are teenagers ( so difficult enough) and the youngest who is 15 goes out and gets drunk on a regular basis, her mum and her dad (my bf) think that she has stopped this and now i found some information that she hasn't in fact she is now having sex with men not lads her own age and is smoking cannabis and going out and getting drunk. i found this out because when she stayed at my house she was on facebook and left the page on the screen, it was a conversation with a girl discussing what they was going to be doing at the weekend, now i know i shouldnt have looked but now i think that her mum and dad should know. Should i show them the messages? but i always end up being the bad guy but i fear something bad might happen to her please help thankful in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): Make shure u print out the solid proof before you tell your partner, other whise the ex will think you're just spreading hurtufl lies
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reader, tux  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Well you are like stuck between a rock and a hard place... If you don't tell her parents and something happens then well you will feel guilt...but well... mmm
Here's what I am going to tell you to do.. I would sit down with the daughter and as a friend talk to her about the consequences of her actions and that she should rethink what she is doing. If you goto her parents with it, she may rebel further and you will be the bad guy.. I think it's better to come clean with her about it and explain the dangers of her behavior.. She may dislike you at first, but in the end with things hit the fan, she will know she can come to you about it. IMO, it's always better to have someone to turn to when things hit the fan than noone at all.. And in the end, I think you may do better with her than her parents being that you are closer to her age..if you really are 22-25...
That's my take on it.
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 You know I'm 19 years old. I think that once in a while like around the summer, holidays and bdays thats its okay to attend one or two parties, get a little buzzed and have a good time. But I absolutely agree with you! If she is drinking and smoking and partying every weekend, i would mention something to her parents, if she can't party rsponsibly then she shouldnt at all. Besides considering shes only 15 and partying every weekend... i think not! And Tell her parents that they did not hear this from you. Simply tell your boyfriend to say that she left her myspace or facebook on the computer and he saw it and told her mother. That way you dont have ot play the evil step monster card lol. The best of luck! ^_^
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